H has been denying for months that affair has continued with OW who is a coworker. He works out of town and he basically talks in circles with me.<P>Officially found out Saturday that Affair is ongoing when I went to OW house after son told me during visitation with Dad that he met OW.<P>H visited brother and sister in law yesterday and admitted to them that he loves this OW and that she has left her H for my H. She is 27 and he is 42. This is my H 2nd marriage and we have a 3 year old son and he has 3 children from first marriage. He told them he just wants to keep everybody happy. My sister in law said that she feels that he wants out of the marriage, but when he is with me, he hugs me and just says that he is confused. I was plan Aing, but I think that is hopeless when I only see him at most twice a month. <P>Any advice, I am hurting badly. Is he playing me and just waiting for me to divorce him. Where can their relationship go with both of them married and what does a 27 year old woman want with him. He did not leave his 1st wife for me.

H is certainly not acting very responsibly. I'm very sorry that you are hurting like this, especially at this time of year.<P>Odds are that this affair isn't going to last forever. I know that it is so hard to Plan A given his infrequent visits to you. I think all you can do is your best.<P>Does OW have kids (I recall no?). How long has he had this job for?<P>Plan A is never hopeless, although it seems like it sometimes while the A is going on. It is like a silent weapon though....it works without you really seeing anything for a long time.<P>Make sure you stay in touch with friends, family throughout this period. Take care of yourself. I understand the lies....I get them continuously and it is almost worse than the A itself.