Mische,<P>My H moved out at the end of April 2000. And we first didn't contact at all for almost a month, then I e-mailed him and we started to talk again.. During the time we didn't contact I think he thought about me very often. At the time he almost didn't wanna divorce but I didn't see any future on us, and his relationship with OW continued. I'm not a good Plan Aer, so this kind of things I really couldn't stand. Especially she lives in other country and he brought her about 3 times, one time he even lied to me, we were supposed to meet and he lied that he was busy and instead, he brought her. For me if he wants to continue his relationship then he should file. I didnt have an affair, so he should take responsibility for what he has done. So I pushed him real hard on this issue. I almost did it myself(because he wasn'T doing anything) but I said to myself that he should be doing the dirty work. Then I talked to a friend and she said, she understood my point but if he's gonna take his time to do it and that makes me unhappy, then maybe I should go ahead and do it.<P>So make the long story short, this applies to your H too. I guess he doesn't wanna be a bad guy(My H said this several times) by divorcing you. Or he's totally confused and he can't decide one person, maybe he's afraid he will find out he had made a big mistake by divorcing. Who knows what goes on in his head.<P>I think you have kids so things are different from my situation, but if current situation makes you and kids unhappy and you feel Ding is the answer I think you should.. For me I feel(we haven't been divorced yet) by divorcing at least I don't have any say to what he will do with OW and that will help me.<P>It's your decision. Good luck..<P>Meg
