My wife and I have been separated for 8 months now. We have not been making any kind of real progress. She has just been waiting to file for divorce.<P>I have suffered through the emotional roller coaster of depression and anxiety over the loss of my wife and family. ( two boys).<P>Christams holiday was good and we spent the day together as a family. Things went well.<P>Lately I have been feeling better and seem to have a bit more of a clear head.<P>Anyway, last night I called her to say hello to her and the boys which I do frequently. ASked how her day was and how the boys wre doing. Spoke with the boys. And then talked with her breifly. Upon ending the conversation and preparing to hang-up I said "I Love You". Which I have not been doing regularly. Much to my suprise her response to me was "I Love You too." <P>What can we make of this???? Is it nothing?<BR>She has told me over and over that she does not love me anymore. She recently told me that she does not want to spend the rest of her life with me. Then This. Is it nothing?<P>Should I forget it and keep doing what I am doing which is working on my emotional well being and preparing for divorce. Yet trying to plan A as best as I can. Any thoughts?

Hi John! Even though my H is still living at home, I hear the "I don't love you any more" thing frequently. I do still, however, tell him that I still love him. <P>It could mean that she has realized that she does indeed love you. That is great! I hope and pray that is what has happened.<P>However, a couple of times my H has also replied with the same thing. When I asked him if he does love me, he replies that he's sorry, but it's just habit to reply that way (or maybe he forgets that he's talking to me and not the OW). I'm not trying to be negative, but just realistic that it could mean nothing, too.<P>Sorry I don't have better advice.....

John - my approach when ever these unexpected things happen is to hope for the best, but be prepared for a let down. We drive ourselves nuts if we react to every current in the river. Stash it in your hip pocket for now, and keep doing what you're doing.<P>At the next opportunity, be cool, and try for double or nothing! But don't push the point. If this is meaningful, there should be other subtleties as well. Even if it is meaningful, it doesn't mean she's ready to fall back into your arms. It'll be a long road no matter what. Be patient, give it time, and be consistent. But I hope it is a break in the fog for you.<P>WAT

My best friend told me not to read much into it. It was probably just a reaction on her part. But she has not been saying it at all for 8 months.<P>It was kind of nice to hear though. It made me laugh smile and hope.<P>Not bad things I guess. Thanks.