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My W told me back in late Oct. that she was having an affair with a boyfriend from 20 yrs ago.We've been together for 12 yrs and married for 10.I have three stepchildren,two young teens still at home with me.She still claims to love me and remains affectionate.Early this month she moved to her girlfriend's for three weeks.Then called me at work on the 19th and asked to come back to work on us.She had called the OM and told him to walk.It lasted six days.They found an apt. about five miles up the road and she came by for some furnishings yesterday.I left because I couldn't bear to witness this.Now I know that after a week or so she'll want to get close to me. She's done this before.Do I continue to provide some of her emotional needs or do I go to plan B and wait and see how their living arrangement works out?
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My best advice is to Plan A for awhile, so you look like the best option when she gets out of the fog. If you Plan B, it could scare her into coming back, but given that she has already tried coming back, the fog is thick. Therefore, I'm voting for Plan A, and do things to make you even better than you might already be. Let her know that you are the most attractive option.<P>See what else you get in terms of advice. Hang in there with the rest of us.
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Thanks for the advice Rick.I really wasn't moving in that direction but I see merit in your suggestion.i also believe it takes the stronger person to stick it out with plan A rather than escape into plan B too quickly.I'm gonna try it awhile longer.
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