Well I know this is hard for everyone with this being new years eve. But on christmas eve h came by and had my daughter sneak gifts in here for me. I don't know what to do with them, i unwrapped them and just have them under my tree. It's kind of funny cause h put some thought to what he got me. One was a picture frame with mother written on it in all different languages, one was a can opener, he remember from wen he came back for that short time, and the one that is freaky is a rope chain with a # mommy. What's strang about that is that i had got hime the same thing. My friend sad that sometime go works in mysterous was. I don't know, then today he came to pick up kids to do his christmas w/ them and of them don't want to go. It's a long story butheonly took one of the boys and i told him sinc the other ones don't want to be around her, then your not going to spend any time w/ them? He adhe can't tell her to leave her house, I sa well that's the sacurfice that yourwilling to make. I know that some of you don't know my sitution but here is what i wrote when i first came here :Ok here we go, I'm new here, I'm not going to go into the glory details but I just wanted some insite from those going through this. My h told me he was having a A back in Feb after we moved, they started sharing things 2 months before then it got physical a month after. This is total not his nature, he left for 2wks then came back and he couldn't understand why he did, it broke his selfestem. Anyway I guess he couldn't handled it cause he stayed for 2wks and then told me that he thought it was best he get his own place, I told him to leave. It wa very hard, me and the kids lost everything, the house, ect. He moved in with his dad, so did the ow. I was hearing that they were starting to fight all the time. She is 16 yrs older than him and totally different then me, works in a topless bar and flashes her boops to everyone and her daughter is a case in herself, a runaway was in a rehab, ect. But anyway he started coming around alot more to see the kids. He got wing of me going out a couple of times and called me to say we needed to talk. Meet a a park and started telling me alot. Told me about him a her not getting along and that the way that I had been was all the things he was missing and that he was very jealous, but couldn't say anyhting cause of what he was doing. Anyway 2 days later he left her and was staying with my brother and we were with eachother the 4 days, then something happen, my guess is she called him. He told me that he wanted to get me and the kids a place and himself a separate place. I flipped. Anyway things got nasty. Then about 2months later I had got me and the kids a new place to live and he started coming over more. We would talk like never before, told me that he didn't want to leave but he new he would hear it if he didn't. Then one day he showed up to my house and we made love. Then he asked if we were alright cause it was really bother him how we were treating eachother and that he didn't want any secrets and wanted to be open. But I didn't ask him to come back. We were bonding and really talking no more sex since that last time, for about another month then in late sept he showed up at my door at midnight and asked if I wanted him to come home. Like a dream come true. I told that I did but I wanted it to be for keeps and he said that he was in it for the long run and has been missing me like crazy and had been wanting to hold me for so long. Him and the ow had gotten into a really big fight were the cops were called in, anyway, he was very low self esteem after the first day of being back didn't think he could do anything right cause of what he had done. That he tool time away from me and the kids lost our house and everything. Then she called saying that she had his truck title and he had to go meet her. I guess we don't have to go into details he didn't have sex with her but I guess the next day he started missing her. He left again that day. Is this all normal? His friend that picked him up that night told me that he does love me very much and that was why he kept on coming back but that he thought me and the kids deserve more. That was insep now he is starting to want ot talk to me and has been aking to do things againd. What is going on? This ow is totally opposite that him they get into fights were he hits himself. I didn't want my kids around that but about a month ago I started to let them go. But a couple of weekends ago theyfought in front of the kids and he hit imself over the head with a helmet. I do now he loves me and I can tell but I need to understand, will he ever come home or am I just hopomg. He has also goting wing of a man coming around here he's friend but he wants more and "I just need the copany. H says he understands now why I don't want the kids over there cause he has been up late thinking about another man taking his place. Any adice?<BR> <BR>OK that was it, can anyone help me understand what he is doing? how can he choose someone else over his kids.