I have been married for 13 years have two small preschool children. 1 1/2 years ago I found out that my H was addicted to porn, we never had a very good or active sex life and I never knew why. He went for counselling for two months and doesnt think he is addicted. He has been using porn to meet his needs since he was in high school He is now in late 30's. We have gone without sex for as long as 18 months. In our marriage we have never had sex more than maybe 4 times a year.<BR>My self esteem over the years with him has diminished greatly. <BR>He seems like he is sorry but now I don't trust him and I dont think I love him anymore.<BR>He is not very good at communicating and for me communication is a very important emotional need.<P>Help please do I start over and just hope i can learn to trust him again. He did throw away all his magazines and videos but a year later he bought 2 more magazines and was looking at porn on internet.<BR>I am on anti depressants since December to help me clear my head<P>Please Help.<BR>thanks

unlucky:<P>With two children, I'd suggest that you try to save your marriage with a structured plan. Would your husband agree to marriage counseling with you? If the two of you can sit down and design a plan (and stick with it), you can learn to follow the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3900_rules.html" TARGET=_blank>Four Rules for a Successful Marriage</A>. Even if he won't do counseling, you could start---although with you not being "in love" with him, it'll make your job harder.