Happy New Year to you all. I haven't posted in a while I've been too busy plan Aing.<P>I really thought things were going good although H is still living with OW. H met some friends the other day and told them that the dreadful thing is that I cannot accept the finality of the situation. This ia from the man who calls me at least 3 times a week. Called at 12.10am on Jan 1st to wish me happy New Year and who gave me 4 Christmas presents 1 from him and 3 from Santa. Am I reading the wrong thing into this or should I keep plan Aing. <P>It is hard everthing seems a bit worse at this time of year doesn't it.<P>Love and best wishes for 2001.<P>Annie<P>You are all in my prayers.

annie h,<P>I went back and read some of your posts just to refresh my memory. The first thing that strikes my mind is to Plan A for as long as you can, and when you can't anymore, then go to Plan B. I presume you are doing things in Plan A that are making you an attractive option for your H, and making him think?<P>I know it has got to be tough knowing he is living with OW, but he is calling and obviously thinking about you. Hopefully the fog lifting isn't so far off, although we just never know.<P>I personally would not worry about what he says to friends. I think what they say depends on who they are talking to, and perhaps he wants to make it look like he knows what he is doing, and thus mentions "why can't you accept". I don't know, just guessing.<P>I'd just keep doing your best and hang in there. The option is moving to Plan B, as you know, but I'd tend to stick with Plan A for as long as you can. See what others say of course. In the end, you probably know best.

Thanks for that. I think I will keep plan Aing but anyone elses advice would help.