Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
Joined: Dec 2000
Posts: 87
Member
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2000
Posts: 87 |
Well last night I had a 2 hour conversation with my son who is 10.. He is extremely angry at his dad and does not want to see him anymore..<P>He told me that his dad is a liar, that he is tired of him fighting with me, he hates the OW and is very resentful that she has to be there when he goes to visit.He said his dad is acting like a kid and he is tired of his dad hurting his feelings. He claims when he is at dad's house he & OW sit and whisper and then they went in the bedroom. My son feels that OW should not be spending the night when he is there and he thinks she is a phony person who is only being nice to him because of dad. He had so much hurt and anger and was very nervous. He said everytime he comes hom from dad's he is in a bad mood. Which I know of course I see it everytime.. <P>My son said that I am his MOM and DAD because I do everything for him and that I am the only one who cares about his feelings and he can talk to me.<P>I feel so bad for him , I don't know what to do . Thee is no talking to H. He is a jerk about it. OW said she would back off for kids sake and has not. My son said that dad begged her to come over to my house the other night. He said he thinks dad did it to hurt me. He said he used to cry at night when dad was mean to me. UHHHGGGG!!!<P>I don't want to have this discussion with H again we have talked about it 3 times now and all he does is get mad and yell. My son won't talk to him for the same reason. What should I do?<P>Help..<BR>Diana
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 1,900
Member
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 1,900 |
Is your son in consoling or is their anyone he could talk to that could talk to your H? I think either your son needs to tell him or a neutral party.
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2000
Posts: 867
Member
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2000
Posts: 867 |
Poor little guy! Boys need a dad that they can look up to! I have a son myself--thankfully, he and his dad have a good line of communication yet. My son is only 5.<P>But yours is at an awkward age--not a little kid, not a teen that can be talked to at a fairly mature level. But it surely is making him grow up too fast to show him what selfish jerks adults can be. Most people would loathe to see their children hurting, and would think carefully before acting in a manner that is obviously destroying their relationship with their child. It is certainly not fair what his father is doing to him. What a knucklehead! <P>You most definatly should find some sort of counseling for your son. This is too much for you to bear--you cannot be mom and dad and confidante all rolled into one. Especially if his father is just blowing you off when you try to talk to him about it. It looks like you are getting no where by trying to act in your son's behalf.<P>You are a good mom. Keep up the job you are doing. Nothing you do in love for your child is in vain.<P>Mary
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2000
Posts: 87
Member
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2000
Posts: 87 |
Well I have a counseling session today. I am gonna speak to her about it and figure out away to deal with this. I know that my son needs to tell his dad, however he expressed his feelings to him awhile back and feels that dad does not care how he feels so, he has no desire to talk to him again..<P>wish me luck<P>Diana
|
|
|
0 members (),
811
guests, and
55
robots. |
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,624
Posts2,323,518
Members72,024
|
Most Online6,102 Jul 3rd, 2025
|
|
|
|
|