I didn't want to intrude on Ivory's post with what was essentially just an apology to you. Please accept my sincerest apologies. I used your husband as an example of something without thinking how that would make you (or him) feel. I intended neither a slight at him, nor at you, nor at the presence of religion in your lives, which I know from your prior posts has made a world of difference to both of you. "Getting religion" was intended as a generic reference to his finally seeing clearly, accepting that he needed to work as hard as everyone else did, etc.<P>Ivory's post made me emotional, almost angry, just as yours and Firestorm's occasionally have, and because of that I spoke out of turn. In the case of your posts, that's because Firestorm so clearly does care for you, and you for him, but you've both still struggled. It reminded me too much of myself for comfort, I suppose. I always assumed that because I "really, really loved" my wife, I'd never have an affair. And yet I did. As you say, the thoughtless comment was no doubt something to make myself feel better.<P>In any event, I'm genuinely sorry if I wounded, even temporarily. Take care.

Taxman,<P>Apology accepted, though not really necessary.<P>Peppermint