It has come to my attention that Fox is going to be airing a real-life show sort of like "Survivor" (see description of "Temptation Island" below) promoting infidelity - as though it were some kind of prize in a game show! PLEASE: Write Fox and let them know how you feel about this! Tell them that you will be boycotting the products by advertisers of this show, if you feel like it. Shows like this should *not* even exist; personally, I am offended and outraged!<P>Fox's eddress is: askfox@foxinc.com<P>Spread the word to everyone you know who has a moral compass that you do not want to see garbage like this on your television!<P>belld > <P><BR>"Temptation Island<P>  Premiers January 10, 2001 at 9:00PM/8:00C <BR>The next wave of reality television is here! <BR>Following the success of Survivor and The Real World comes a provocative new series on FOX. <P>Temptation Island is a provocative new reality-based show produced by Rocket Science Laboratories. Four unmarried, but seriously committed, couples at a crossroads in their relationship and 30 singles that are looking for love travel to an exotic location to test the waters of temptation. <P>The couples, who are willing to test their relationships, will be set up on a variety of dates with three of the singles that best reflect their ideal mate. After two weeks of exploring the single world again, the couples will have to decide between a possible new love interest and their old flame."

Fox has a serious problem with morality...<BR>"Who wants to marry a millionaire" was one of the ones the general public put down right away, but only after it had aired. However, they didn't do it again after the public spoke their minds. We need to speak again... including sponsor boycott threats, since money talks.<P>Thanks for bringing this to our attention, belld!<P>Wow ... I found this one with a simple query in askjeeves.com - it was the very first response and led me to:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.fox.com/temptation/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.fox.com/temptation/</A> <P>Not much there other than what belld has quoted above, however, it is a sponsored page ... there are ads running on it. We can start telling the web page sponsors about our feelings NOW.<P>WebMD.com is one of them... actually, at this point, it looks as though WebMD.com is the only page sponsor. Not a great commentary on their commitment to health... since fidelity is a healthy lifestyle.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I><p>[This message has been edited by terri (edited January 04, 2001).]

I too am outraged...<P>...I'll be getting together a list of the sponsors/advertisers (at least in the NYC area & some cable stations) who advertise on the FOX Channels...<BR>...I'll be doing it on a continuing basis...<P>...so if you want to send the advertisers copies of your well worded responses to FOX... you can!<P> <P>Jim

For lack of a better email address, I used this one to write a letter about my serious concern regarding WebMD's apparent sponsorship of this Fox show: service@webmd.net<P>Please write.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

I too have written the website sponsor, as well as my local Fox station. That's where it counts, on a community level. If enough people start showing that they really find this show distasteful and threaten a boycott of LOCAL ADVERTISERS, my guess is that it'll be toast.<P>Good luck with your letter writing, everyone - spread the word, near and far, to your churches, your communities, your friends and family, etc. Get this nasty show OFF THE AIR!!!!!!!!!<P>belld

Mine has been written and sent. Maybe we can, in some small way, make a difference.

My H & I saw the promos for the show, it appears worse than it reads. Lots of crying, gnashing of teeth. One guy says something like "I never expected the temptation to go to such extremes." H & I were aghast at what was shown, seems little more than prostitution as TV entertainment. My grandma would say, "Such filth."<P>Thanks for passing on the email addresses to protest.

FYI...Article of reaction to the show... <A HREF="http://www.entertainment.msn.com/tv/gist/fri02.asp" TARGET=_blank>www.entertainment.msn.com/tv/gist/fri02.asp</A>

Following the link just given ( <A HREF="http://www.entertainment.msn.com/tv/gist/fri02.asp" TARGET=_blank>http://www.entertainment.msn.com/tv/gist/fri02.asp</A> )...<BR>...takes you to <A HREF="http://www.afa.net/activism/aa121500.asp" TARGET=_blank>Action Alert - 12/15/2000</A>...<P>Another place to e-mail (or snail-mail) to is:<P>Sandy Grushow, President<BR>FOX Broadcasting Company <BR>10201 W. Pico Blvd.<BR>Los Angeles, CA 90035<BR>Phone (310)369-3797<BR>Fax (310) 369-1283<BR> sandyg@fox.com

The ratings news is not good...<BR><A HREF="http://entertainment.msn.com/news/eonline/0113/temptation_island.asp" TARGET=_blank>Temptation Island Scores</A>...<BR>...<B>so we all have our work cut out</B>!<P>The grim list of advertisers who have lost their minds...<P><A HREF="http://www.parentstv.org/Temptation/temptation20010110.html" TARGET=_blank>Temptation Island's Advertisers</A>!!!<P>These, I beleive to be the national advertiser's...<P>On the local station(Dish Network/NYC/Channel 5) there were, I think there were a few more advertisers... which I will try to investigate!!!<P>Write away folks!!!<P>Some have direct e-mail address (most don't)<P>===========================================<BR><B>WorldCom, Inc.</B><BR>Bernard Ebbers, President & CEO<BR>500 Clinton Center Dr.<BR>Clinton, MS 39060-39056<BR>(601) 460-5600<BR>Product: 1-800-Collect<BR>e-mail: news-mciwcom@wcom.com<P><B>Tricon Global Restaurants (KFC & Pizza Hut & Taco Bell)</B><BR>David Novak, Chairman and CEO <BR>1441 Gardiner Lane <BR>Louisville, KY 40213<BR>(502) 874-8300<BR>Product Kentucky Fried Chicken<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Sony Corp. </B><BR>Howard Stringer, Chairman and CEO<BR>550 Madison Ave. <BR>New York, NY 10022 <BR>(212) 833-6800 <BR>Sony Film: Snatch<BR>Columbia Film: Finding Forrester<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Unilever Home and Personal Care, USA</B><BR>Charlie Strauss, CEO <BR>33 Benedict Pl.<BR>Greenwich, CT 06836-5308<BR>(800) 745-9595 <BR>Product: Wishbone Just 2 Good<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Quaker Oats Co.</B><BR>Robert S. Morrison, Chairman, President and CEO <BR>321 N. Clark St.<BR>Chicago, IL 60610-4714<BR>(312) 222-7111<BR>Product: Quaker Oat Meal<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Best Buy Co., Inc.</B><BR>Richard M. Schulze, CEO<BR>7075 Flying Cloud Dr. P.O. Box 9312<BR>Eden Prairie, MN 55344<BR>(612) 238-3500<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Bristol Myers Squibb Co.</B><BR>Charles A. Heimbold, Jr., CEO <BR>345 Park Ave.<BR>New York, NY 10154<BR>(212) 546-4000 <BR>Product: Clairol Herbal Essence<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>MGM Studios</B><BR>Alex Yemenidjian, CEO<BR>2500 Broadway St.<BR>Santa Monica, CA 90404-3061<BR>Film: Antitrust<BR>website feedback: <A HREF="http://www.mgm.com/cgi-bin/c2k/help.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.mgm.com/cgi-bin/c2k/help.html</A> <P><B>eBay, Inc.</B><BR>Margaret Whitman, CEO<BR>2125 Hamilton Ave.<BR>San Jose, CA 95125<BR>(408) 558-7400<BR>800 322-9266<BR>Product: eBay.com<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>USA Networks, Inc.</B><BR>Barry Diller, CEO<BR>152 W. 57th, 42nd Fl.<BR>New York, NY 10019<BR>(212) 314-7309<BR>Film: Traffic<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Metabolife International</B><BR>David Brown, President<BR>5070 Santa Fe Street<BR>San Diego, CA 92109<BR>(858) 490-5222<BR>Product: Metabolife<BR>e-mail: info@metabolife.com<P><B>Hotjobs.com</B><BR>Richard Johnson, CEO<BR>406 West 31st Street<BR>New York, NY 10001<BR>(212) 699-5300<BR>e-mail: no direct<P><B>Partnership for a Drug-Free America</B><BR>Richard Bonette, President<BR>405 Lexington Ave. 16th Floor<BR>New York, NY 10174<BR>(212) 973-3500<BR>e-mail: webmail@drugfree.org<P>===========================================<P> <P>NSR<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited January 12, 2001).]

Wow, censureship?!<P>Is the music industry next? Cause I've got issues with "If loving you is wrong, I don't wanna be right". <P>Just kidding.<P>But what about asking Fox (or another station) to do a REAL biography on what affairs are really all about?<P>Wouldn't that be "proactive" instead of "reactive"?<P>I know marriagebuilders is going to try to be the center of public education about marriages and how to avoid infidelity. I think that is outstanding. <P>If there was such a public outcry against "Who wants to marry a millionaire" and everyone saw how stupid the premise was, wouldn't it be fantastic if all the millions who are watching "Temptation..." come to the same conclusion? Wouldn't that be a public service of sorts?<P>I remember the promo where one woman (clearly in a fog) says "I'm in heaven!" while she's being swept up by another man and it splits into a scene where her boyfriend is crying and saying "I never knew I would be in such hell!" <P>(I'm not clear if this is because he had an A or if he realized he was betrayed--but either way, aren't they accurate portrayals?)<P>Personally, if they do a good job of showing the process of the fallout that happens with the crap that's glorified, and the stupidity and senslessness of A's, the only thing better would be if they could follow it up with a show on how to prevent affairs and how to have real loving and satisfying relationships.<P>IMHO,<P>Leilana <P>P.S. My (ex-)WS H thinks the show is the stupidest thing he's ever seen. He's extremely angry at the couples ON the show. <P>This is the opinion I hope this show gives people the opportunity to formulate for themselves. People in "the fog", WS, ex-WS, people thinking about becoming WS...

Leilana,<P>You know I was the un-official "welcome wagon" on some of the MB forums for a while...<P>I feel/felt like the social worker waiting for the endless intake of drug addicts coming for and needing treatment...<BR>...the line never ends.<P>...it's even longer and worse for the <B>other</B> (second hand) victims of addiction... <P>Infidelity <B>is an addiction</B>! ...as much as drugs!<BR>...and glamorizing it... will lead to more victims.<P>Legalize hard core drugs... I think not...<BR>Splash it (attractively on the public airwaves)... I think not...<P>Why should it be OK for this level of glamorized (pre)infidelity?...<BR>The amount of damage this does to children(families) due to eventual divorces...<BR>...and to the spouses...<BR>resulting from infidelities is appalling.<P>Speaking up as a citizen who has a right to express himself as TV viewer (even if it not a station I watch) of what is on those public airwaves...<BR>...is not censorship!<BR>...it's common sense.<P> <P>Jim<P>PS... your H is only now feeling how his actions have given to his psyche some guilt.<P>I hope this show dies a quick and unremembered death...<BR>...as should all affairs.<BR>(The reality of the our narcissitic society is that neither will die soon enough)

OK...what am I missing here?<P>None of the couples on the show are "M-A-R-R-I-E-D"<P>What is being 'tested' here?

My point is that this goes against virtually everything that the MB concept teach...<P>Being the sole person to meet those (martial) ENs...<BR>Minimizing LBs...<BR>Being truthful and having full honesty...<BR>...(no it's not honest to say let me cheat on our relationship...)<BR>Spending the time with your spouse!<P>And there is no chance of keeing a POJA...<BR>...when the "games" you play are what they are.<P>There have been numerous comments from FSs that it would have been nice for kids to be taught the right way to build and maintain a relationship... in their youth...<P>This show does nothing but corrupt any ideas of <B>"relationship" fidelity</B>...<BR>...and only gives tools/ideas/games/etc...to test and break what could be a healthy way to build a life together.<P>Does this hurt young couples?...yep...<BR>Does it devalue marriage?... yep...<BR>Does it demean both women and men... yep!<BR>Will it effect the lives of newly married couples... and then their children... (after the divorce)...???...<P>Oh yes... BTW: one of the <I>couples</I> is to be kicked off the show...<BR>...it seems they already have had a child...

Fox is loaded with inappropriate shows...<BR>...I know they(Fox) are not alone...<BR>...but this show hits too close to home.<P>When my kids ask to see a questionable show...<BR>...and I still, as their parent have that right...<P>...I recall the following story....<BR>...and it could equally apply to the immature of all ages...<P>=============================================<P>Many parents are hard pressed to explain to their youth why some music, movies, books, and magazines are not acceptable material for them to bring into the home or to listen to or see.<P>One parent came up with an original idea that is hard to refute.<P>The father listened to all the reasons his children gave for wanting to see a particular PG-13 movie. It had their favorite actors. Everyone else was seeing it. Even church members said it was great. It was only rated PG-13 because of the suggestion of sex--they never really showed it. The language was pretty good--the Lord's name was only used in vain three times in the whole movie. <P>The teens did admit there was a scene where a building and a bunch of people were blown up, but the violence was just the normal stuff. It wasn't too bad. And, even if there were a few minor things, the special effects were fabulous and the plot was action packed.<P>However, even with all the justifications the teens made for the '13' rating, the father still wouldn't give in. He didn't even give his children a satisfactory explanation for saying, "No." He just said, "No!"<P>A little later on that evening the father asked his teens if they would like some brownies he had baked. He explained that he'd taken the family's favorite recipe and added a little something new. The children asked what it was.<P>The father calmly replied that he had added dog poop.<P>However, he quickly assured them, it was only a little bit. All other ingredients were gourmet quality and he had taken great care to bake the brownies at the precise temperature for the exact time. The teens would not take any. The father acted surprised. After all, it was only one small part that was causing them to be so stubborn. He was certain they would hardly notice it. Still the teens held firm and would not try the brownies.<P>The father then told his children how the movie they wanted to see was just like the brownies. <B>Who</B>???... tries to enter our minds and our homes by deceiving us into believing that just a little bit of evil won't matter. But, the truth is even a little bit of poop makes the difference between a great treat and something disgusting and totally unacceptable.<P>The father went on to explain that even though the movie/TV industry would have us believe that many of today's movies/shows are acceptable fare for adults and (not just youth either), they are not.<P>============================================<P>For those who lack the maturity of the "father" in the story...<BR>...as many ...in a society hell bent on narcissism...<BR>...let them recognize how palatable even the slightest "little bit" of infidelity is to anyone!<P> <P>Jim

Change the World<P>--------------------------------------------------------------------------------<P>When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn't change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn't change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realized that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world. <P>Author Unknown

NSR, that was beautiful. And so true. The message you give to your children is so vital. We have racism because there are people who never taught their children that we are all equal in the eyes of God. <P>Perhaps there is so much tolerance for EMRs because we don't talk about them with our children openly and honestly. And now we have a generation of people who are so apathetic that shows like "Temptation Island" don't even phase them.<P>belld