I too have wondered about the revenge thoughts we all have regarding the OP. I am sure that the husband of my OW wishes the same bad fortune on my husband that I wish on his wife. I have thought about this very much and truly feel that the OW in my case is particularily more evil than my H because:<P>#1) My H was never in her home, nor would he have called her at home on the weekend had I caught him and thrown him out. She had no problem calling my house to disclose that they were having an affair becasue she was "kicked out " and had no place to go, so she could come ot my place.<P>#2) At the company Christmas party shortly before I found out about them, she came over and sat with me, had a big chat with me about the job, my H, kids etc. My H never went near her or her husband at that party.<P>#3) When confronted by her husband, my H told him how sorry he was and tried to talk her into going back to her marriage and fixing things. When I called her she told me that my H had many affairs before and told her he never loved me.<P>#4) She parked her car where I could see it everytime she was in my home with my Husband, even after I asked her not too anymore.<P>#5) She went back to her husband in one week but continued to have sex with mine, all the while, telling my Husband that she was sleeping on the couch and helping with her kids and telling her husband that she had ended everything.<P>#6) IN the end, her and her husband went to management of the company where my Husband works (they all worked there) and threatened to quit as it was too hard to work with my H anymore (she was still sleeping with him at that time) the company fired my h.<P>#7) She told my H that I called her and told her she was a terrible mother for leaving her two children with her husband - I never did this.<P>#8) As well, after their break up she kept my husband's cell phone, beleving that he would pay for it and she could use for two years huh?<P><BR>So I think I am right in believing that she is particularily evil. <P>Another thing, in my case is my H has done everything in his power to correct this horrible mistake he made - but she has never so much as apologized to me.<P>A part of it that we love your spouses, and do not even know the OW in most cases.<P>I hope it works out for you, guy, your wife will realize soon enough who the right person for her is.

AGG,<P>I agree with you but I still can't help how I feel about OW. If her X feels that way about my WS, I really don't have a problem with it. OW used her A to exit her marriage, I am not sure her X even knew about her A, at the time of their divorce, I know at one time he didn't. <P>When we were still living in the same city, if I heard of an fatal accident near her part of town, I am sorry to say, I always wished it was her. Even though I can think I liked to see her tarred & feathered, boiled in oil, a Scarlet A tattooed on her forehead or fed to the lions, etc., what I really wish for her is peace. I feel if she could find peace & happiness my H could let her go, then we could be happy again. He feels bad that she was hurt, that he ruined her life also, of course I have different thoughts. <P>There were no innocent parties in this mess, except the children mine & hers, none of them asked for their families to break up.<P>Just a few thoughts