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I haven't posted in a while but need to get a read on this situation. H has been involved in EA for 1 year. D-day 5-00. I have been in Plan A since then. He has never said he doesn't love me and has been living at home this whole time. We have a 3 year old whom he loves. He has been in contact with OW this whole time by phone mainly and sees her at his place of employment sometimes, they do not always work at the same time. In the last 2 weeks he has opened up to me and admitted his strong feelings for the OW. I have handled these admissions well even though it kills me inside to hear about his feelings for her. Along with these admissions he is being very honest with me about his contact with her. I view this as a very postive step because we have had some really good conversations but I still don't think he believes he has to end contact with her. Last night her saw her at work and he stayed late to talk to her and he came home and told me about it. I told him the best thing that could have happened was that he admit he wanted to be with her but to come home and deal with the feelings with me. I told him I am there for him to talk to about this and that I want to help him get through this. I also told him that it hurts me when he wants to spend time with her. I feel we are on the right track because there is a new level of honesty and we are discussing on a regular basis very calmly and rationally. Do you all think we are on the right track? I need a some encouragement. I have been reading the other posts about length of Plan A and Plan B. I don't know what to do.

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I am certainly no expert but I think you are on the right path. Your accepting honesty with out LB and you are calmly letting him know that this continued contact hurts you. To me this just seems right.<P>I don't know much about the proper time frames. But I do believe you should establish one you can live with and stick to it. according to SAA if you plan A then Plan B to no avail you will be able to walk away without pain. No more love in the bank.<P>Sorry I could not be of more help here.


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