I'm particularly concerned about a relationship that my H has with a divorced female neighbor of ours. Three of us neighbors are close. He, she and another married male neighbor are particularly close in that they drink and party together at one of the three homes. Her 3 adult children live with her, as well as a grandchild. Her former live-in BF moved away about 8 months ago and she has dated only sporatically since then. Since her BF moved away, both I and the wife of other male neighbor friend have expressed our dislike of our husbands spending time with her. They have dramatically reduced the amount of time, but still do party together. H says she's like a mother figure to him (she's about 13 years older)<P>However, three recent incidents have me concerned. First, H and I planned a getaway to Vegas to attend a convention for one of his hobbies. She also indulges in this hobby so he mentioned the convention to her. Next thing I know, she's calling me for our itinerary. I thought she was joking or just "dreaming" of going. But she went! Same flights but a different hotel. Our ONLY getaway alone last year and SHE WENT!<P>A couple of days before Christmas she and male neighbor were over. They were in the basement and I was in the kitchen upstairs when I heard her tell the guys about her pedicure that day and how wonderful her foot massage was. Maybe its me, but I thought it was inappropriate for this woman to tell two married men about her wonderful her foot massage was and how good she was feeling about it.<P>She called the other day to speak with H. Daughter answered on speakerphone in my room and he picked up downstairs. I heard her tell him (very innocently)that she hadn't seen him all week and wondered what he was up to. She went on to say what she was cooking, etc. I hung up at that point.<P>It didn't actually bother me initially because they do, as a group, see/speak to one another quite frequently. What bothered me eventually was that within an hour, he and male neighbor were heading over to her house and spent 3-4 hours there. (Again, her entire family is there in the house)<P>It bothered me because I felt like it is one thing to call a friend and say hey I haven't talk to you, what's been going on, etc. (ie. get the update on the phone) Its another thing for him to feel obligated to go over and "make up" for not seeing her that week.<P>I may be splitting hairs, but there are often weeks that go by that he and I don't spend time together, yet he feels no obligation to devote a stretch of time to me. Yet, he does with her.<P>I know this woman and her family well and like them a lot. They have become much like family to us, but since her BF left, I am quite concerned about this relationship with my H. <P>I am certain that there is nothing going on between he and she, but I feel like this is exactly how something could develop. I feel like it is at a point where one simply needs to take that step over the line. Does anyone else get this feeling or is this my distrust/jealousy speaking?<P>Any thoughts are appreciated.<P>Enlightened