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Jim,<P>I read your letter. It is very heartfelt and I could feel your emotion and sincerity. But, I do not think your W will be able to really understand what you have written, at this point in her life. She has blocked herself from emotionally receiving this message from you. <P>But, there may be another benefit. It is a closure letter in a way. If she choses to go on with her plans after the divorce, you have let her know plainly what you intend to do - eventually seek an annulment. As it has been throughout this long ordeal, the choices are still hers.<P>I wish you and your family well. As I have told you before - and I truly believe this - someone as decent and caring as you are Jim, it really comes across through your continued efforts on this forum - surely God our Father will bring more blessings and love into your life. Please keep on the lookout so you don't miss anything!<P>Fondly,<P>RMA/Desiree<P><P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Desiree...<P>...my dearest... <P>So good to hear from you. <P>I do realize she won't understand...<BR>...she can't...<BR>...her stubborness and hard heartedness is deep...<BR>...she is still lost in a fog...<BR>...and in time will knock into things... or things will knock into her... (i.e. my stepson's SSA benefits she stole) <P>----------------------------------------<P>I do realize that my Plan B is a <B>very</B> late Plan B...<P>It should have happened a while back...<BR>...maybe 3 or 4 months ago...<P>But...<BR>I look at it this way....<BR>When my W leaves the OM... or OM leave my W... (both very likely)...<P>...and 3, 6, 8 or more years down the road...<BR>...if I am in another relationship...<BR>...I would want my new parter to know the break was clean... and irrevocable at some fixed time (completion of the annulment.)<P>...and if it were to happen that my W attempt to come back...<BR>...the (annulment)process would make it clear in my mind, heart and soul...<BR>...it is not meant to be... even though her heart may be pleading.<P>I see some/many arguing that they don't need closure on a failed marriage...<BR>...I'm not like that...<BR>...I need it for me...<BR>...I need it for the kids...<BR>...I need it for my faith...<P>Shaking the dust off my feet is important...<P>Carrying it into a new relationship...<BR>...doesn't work for me.<P>Thanks for your prayers...<P>You are so special my dear friend. <P>-------------------------------------------<BR>A thought...<BR>"It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem."<BR> --- G. K. Chesterton<P> <P>Jim

NSR,<P>on a tangent here....<BR>G.K. Chesterton as in the book "Orthodoxy"?

Yes... cleo...

When I read that book, I feel as if I am having a conversation with someone who just goes on forever. Do you find that he is a bit wordy? I haven't read his other books, due in part, to the impression I have of him. <P>cleo

Jim,<P>I replied on the Plan A/B board.<P>Bill

My followup is in <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000597.html" TARGET=_blank>I hear you ALL... RE: PLan B Letter</A>.<P> <P>Jim

Jim,<BR> As always you are in my prayers. Read my post. It may give you a reason NOT to send a Plan B letter. Food for thought anyway. GOOD LUCK AND PRAYERS FRANK<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/001927.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum34/HTML/001927.html</A>