Me and my wife after four years of marriage are having a hard time trying to overcome a lack of sexual desire on her part. We went to a therapist and after a while she said my wife had overcome her "problems". She still has no sexual desire. We were watching a movie the other day that I guess could be classified as softcore porn, and my wife realized while she was watching it that she was aroused by the scenes with two girls together. Now she wants to have an experience, but when I consented with the stipulation that I be included, either before or after, she said no. Are we opening pandra's box here? Am I being selfish and should I be willing to consent and allow her to do this on her own, or are we opening a whole new can of worms here. I don't want to be controlling and deny her something she may not even enjoy, but I don't want her to have a sex life seperate from ours.