My mother-in-law got a call from W today saying that she was going to come over on Sunday and talk to me. From what I heard she was going to try to explain to me why the marriage can't be saved. My guess is that she's going to do something stupid on that Saturday night as well so she can throw it in my face justifying that.<P>I'm kinda clueless on how to behave towards my W on Sunday. All the chords she's trying to strike are pretty much broken by now and all I can really feel is indifference and an urge to go on with my life. Still hoping I'd see the women I married once, but I'm already considering having a look around for someone that deserves my kind of commitment.<P>If you want to go by the book (SAA) I feel just like Jon (the one case study) did after plan B got done. In fact I finally really just feel peaceful inside now...not too happy...but also not depressed. <P>To give a bit more detail on the Sunday, knowing her from my knowledge and from what the book has taught me she'll try two main approaches:<P>1) "I can't control that I won't keep on hurting you, and that I want out for your sake." (Which is a crock full of crap)<P>and if that doesn't work:<P>2) Drudge up every smallest tidbit and hurt me as much as she can in an effort that I'll just lose it and leave.<P><BR>Should try to Plan A it? Stand my own man (without LBing)? Just sit there and laugh? Or just play it by ear? <P>Most of all she feel's Dr. H is full of it and sees his plan as imposing house arrest on her. Any ideas from a BS on how you got your WS to see that it's really neccessary?<P><BR>Cheers,<BR>Mike <P>PS: What should I respond to her likely conversation opener of "I've got to be somewhere else soon so I don't have much time"?<P><p>[This message has been edited by Mid (edited January 11, 2001).]

Just a quick one. Expect what comes out of someone in the fog. I'm not up on your whole situation, but if there is part of you that wants to save the marriage, then listen and just roll with the punches. Be calm and don't LB. When WS say stuff about it being over, and all that stuff, they are acting in the fog. What they say is according to their current beliefs, that don't make sense.<P>Good luck.

Thanks, prolly not going to be much of a talk anyways. I fully expect her to leave the car running outside.