I promised myself that one of these days I would be one of these, you know, the oh, so happy ones that write back and say how well they are doing. I truly believed at that time that those ones are bogus and full of themselves. Perhaps I am but I am happy to say that I am living an everyday life with my husband and we have made it. I wish to thank so many from this wonderful board, TNT, Sir Hurts Alot, Wassi, Bozo's Deb, Samantha, and so many more that I couldn't begin to mention. You know who you are...weather you reached out with an answer or supported me during difficult times. I want you to know that I think we've made it. No, life isn't peaches and cream. There are difficult days, very difficult days that any other couple has to go through. But I think my Husband and I are even more equiped to handle those days and not allow them to separate us now, more now than ever before. I want those of you who are just starting down this road or those of you in the middle of the road who are doubting weather or not it can be done to know that it can. It's a long haul, and there will always be lingering traces of the war within you, scars that become less hurtful and more meaningful every day. Like a strip of courage you carry that scar, develop it and learn from it and promise yourself to never bury it so you will never forget what went wrong before. I am happy, Friday is that day, 11 years ago, that he moved in with me and we became a couple and now I can see us making that 20 0r 50 years.........it can be done. I pray for all of us and I thank those of you who knew and always will know you are special to me! God Bless!

FHL!!! It's great seeing you smile!!! How are you doing? I pray as well! <BR> <P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!

Don't know you or your story but thanks for sharing that you can make it. Good Luck.. You brought a glimmer of light into a very rainy morning here.

Thank you for asking. I am doing very well. I just pasted the two year D-day and I didn't even remember until Lor triggered my memory in one of her posts.<P>Your post really touched me, because it is so true. There are difficult days, but I feel that we are stronger and have learned.<P>I hang around because I think this place lets me give back a bit, since it honestly saved my sanity....and it fills a need for conversation, which is not my H's strong point.<P>All in all, my life is working well!

Bren,<P>I am so glad to here things are better ! Believe me, I know it isn't easy. My d-day was 8-99, yep almost 21/2 years now. But I still have some bad moments, and it doesn't take much to make me wonder what he is up to or if he will do it again.<P>But truly, I am happier now than I have been in a long time. And I believe he is too. There will always be <B> some </B> problems in any marriage, but that isn't always a bad thing. If you use the disagreements to try to understand one another a little better.<P>Remember we are all here to build better marriages, and to become better people while we do it.<P> <P>------------------<BR>Deb<P>Hepatitis C, Please educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In" TARGET=_blank>http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In</A> memory of a very dear friend <A HREF="http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp" TARGET=_blank>http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp</A>

<B>Chick's Bren</B><P>Oh lady, so nice to see your name and update! Made my heart all tingly and warm inside.<P>You are so right. Everything you say is right on. Of course you knew that didn't you? <P>It has been a rough road, a very rough road , but like you it has been well worth all the hard work, effort and pain. We are doing incredibly well. Heck I am even doing a bunch of the normal things, like complaining here and there. Not tons mind you, but a few love busters here and there are so normal. Nice to be normal. <P>Who'd have thought all those months ago, (actually going on two years here for this web site and D-day) that so many of us old timers would be doing so well? Gotta Praise the Lord on all of this. Couldn't have done it without Him or the people here!<P>I remember many days when I didn't think I was going to be able to take even one more breath to sustain what was left of the shell of my life, and I remember you, Chick's Bren, helping me along the way.<P>Thanks for sharing and thanks for that "warm tingly feeling!" You are quite a lady, and Chick is one blessed and lucky man. <P>Keep in touch okay? E-mail me once in a while. If you need the addy again, just let me know.<P>Much love sweetie,<P>God bless you and all of us. We are all going to make it, all of us! With God on our side we can't lose! What God has joined together let no man put asunder. <P>Samantha<P><p>[This message has been edited by A blessed Samantha (edited January 15, 2001).]

YYYYYYYES!!!!!<P>Lori

Bren <BR>Did you feel me thinking of you? You have been on my mind a lot the last 24 hours.<BR>I'm so glad you posted this.<P>I'm guessing you are still busy with school?<BR>How is that baby?<BR>Come on girl ......share a little more. <BR>Everyone needs to hear good stories.

Hi Chick's Bren!<P>You've done well! <P>Let the heavens rejoice, the angels sing, and all of us say AMEN!<P>You've done well! <P>It is very encouraging to see a fellow warrior make it through the battle. You give hope to so many. <P>You've done well! <P>God bless you my fellow warrior. May we all be able to post a note of victory.<P>You've done well! <P>SHA

Hi Bren!<P>Hi everybody!<P>Liz Smith/POGP/alias is alive and healthy and has stopped whining!<P>Thanks for the post, Bren, I wondered who would be able to get everyone out of the woodwork...and you did it, you sly thing!<P>We are doing MOSTLY great, although I do still wish OW had moved. But it DOESN"T matter. We made our decision and 95% of the time I am glad we did. The rest of the time is attributable to PMS and having teenagers!<P>I will finish my A.A. in the Spring and continue online university. I NEVER would have lived through this without you all. REALLY. Thanks,<P>lizzie<P><BR>P.S. No more anti-deps, no more Xanax, and we completed 15 months of bi-weekly counseling last November. We are stronger and much wiser...and you all helped more than I can ever say...<P>In fact, I don't even need to know who had the 2X4 last <P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs to you all}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR>