Samantha-- great to hear from you and what a blessing that things are going so good. Another vacation?? Didn't you two just get back not too long ago? Or has time passed that quickly? TIME- that word we learned to hate so much! When you want it to hurry,,it won't and when you like to suspend it for awhile,,it flies!! LOL. Yep Sam, we've been there and back but we got more than the t-shirt. We got our lives back, maybe not exactly liked we had planned, maybe sometimes even better, but we are all doing the best we can. And that's saying alot for all of us!! Good to hear from you and EMAIL!

Taj, Gosh I haven't seen you post in a long time and I think of you so often. We sure had alot of similarities, didn't we? And to hear that you are still doing good also is such good news. How about an update for you too? It must be about time. Thanks for the good wishes.

Nerlycrzy...Thanks so much for your response.I can't tell you how much it helped. Unfortunately for the past three years I have chosen to not speak to anyone of our difficulties (except my H of course) and it's so good to see other's perspectives and experiences. I read your note again this morning and will probably many more times...to remind myself to Not Let This Control My Life. It takes a tremendous amount of self-talk...something I usually allow to be negative. I'm really working on the positive. Like you, I do realize that I am the one keeping the past current..my H has done what he needed to do and has tried very hard to mend the damage done. I would very much like to talk to you more..I'm not familiar enough with this Board to know how to get your email. Could you post it or let me know how to get it. You obviously have been an inspiration to many here and I'm just another recipient. Hope to hear from you soon.

hurtingbuthopeful
I certainly don't pretend to have all the answers. I only wish I did. I made so many mistakes but they say errors are great learning experiences. If that's the case, I'm a wealth of knowledge!! LOL I didn't find this site until March 1998. Discovery was a month and a half earlier. So most of my regrets were things that were or weren't done according to Harley's suggestions during the closure of the affair and the initial recommittment to our marriage. I think, had I known about this site and been able to follow their advice, recovery would have perhaps been less painful. When I found MB, I was having serious difficulty with the hurt and anger. As badly as I wanted to rebuild, I was obsessing about the affair and allowing it to dominate my entire life. And my H, as much as he wanted another chance, was afraid I was going to spend the next 30 yrs throwing the affair in his face. Not a happy picture for either of us. I had help from so many people here and went to two years of counseling. I still don't have the key to happiness but I do believe I've found the door.

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You've done well! <P>best wishes for a long and loving marriage, <P>SHA

Oh Sir Hurts Alot--I remember very well when you first came on the forum. I sure hurt alot with you. And, again, although I don't post alot anymore, I do read often and have followed your story all along. I still hurt for you and wish you healing and love. You're a special person.

Nerlycrzy, my mentor!<P>So glad to hear your recovery is still going well (when do we quit calling it recovery?).<P>Like you, I check in about once a week to see how things are going for the many who traveled this road with me.<P>H & I are coming up on the two year mark and doing wonderfully.<P>Take care, California girl.<P>

Sherrilynn,<BR> <BR>Where have you been? I have thought of you so often and it's wonderful to hear you two are doing good! How nice this is to hear from so many of us that bared our souls to each other for so long. And you are correct. We need a new phrase instead of "recovery". Sounds too much like a medical condition in remission. How about "revival" or "resurrection" ..I kinda like that cause I thought for sure mine was dead!! LOL Looking forward to your 2 yr update!!