Today is my burthday. Actually had a very pleasant day - saw some friends and bought myself a present (fantastic new walking shoes!).<P>I found that being in Plan B has "delivered" me from all the angst of wondering whether H would cal etc. I have already declined his invitatio to the theatre. However, pleasant surprise. A present was dropped in my mail box. Lovely piece of jewellery; nice card signed "with love"; a message on my mobile phone; and an e-mail telling me to look in the mail box for apresent.<P>This may not mean anything at all but it is quite nice. I have overcome the temptation to call him - by coming here! - but have sent him an e-mail thanking him for the generous present and his caring toughts.<P>Actually, now that i write it down I realise this is all a bit of a replay of this time last year so I certainly wont get to hopeful.<P>Any comments ?<P>R

Happy Birthday.<P>Hey, enjoy your gift, who cares why he sent it.<P>I like your plan of action. Thanks for the kind words.

R,<P><B>Happy Birthday to you.</B> <P>Try and have a great day.<P>--------------------------------------<P>It's OK to accept the present...<BR>...there is no reason to LB by returning it.<BR>...being gracious in accepting it is good.<P>but...<BR>...the "thank you" e-mail...<BR>...(I hope it was short... maybe just 2 words... "thank you")<P>Responding in a lengthy letter defeats the purpose of Plan B.<P>Hang tough.<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>

Thankyou Sing and NSR for your birthday wishes. <P>NSR - yes, the e-mail simply said "thankyou for your generous present and caring thoughts"<P>BUT - he rang last night - and SANG happy birthday on the phone. I laughed (nicely) said thankyou and yes, I had had a nice day/ and ended the conversation courteously. <P>I just find Plan B so much easier to deal with than hanging around on the periphery of hid life, always hoping.<P>R

YOU SOUND GREAT!!!! Happy Birthday! Keep up the good and hard work! You have everything to gain and only sorrow to lose!