If you are lurking out there I wanted you to see this. It was in another post, but really directed at what you had written.<P>alone alot - thank you for your words. In reading it I could almost imagine the OW<BR>involved with my H having written it. It is her style and with her level of eloquence.<BR>I have often wondered what she would say about the A now and somehow your post has<BR>answered that question. <P>I have never really hated her, just questioned how she could care about my H and care so little for the one thing in his life that meant most to him-his family. But I understand that sometimes reality has a hard time competing when strong emotions are involved. I was also angry at my H because from the things that he told me, the OW and I could have become great friends having so many things in our lives in common. I feel as if he/they robbed us of that. And who knows perhaps the two of us could have helped<BR>each other...but that is something now that I will never know.<P>Consider yourself blessed that you could stand back and really discover the how and<BR>whys the A took place. My wish for you is that you will find yourself and discover the<BR>things in life that can truly make you happy and surround yourself with them. In doing so<BR>you will find peace.