I have just started writing a few days ago, but let me tell you a little about my story. About 8 mo ago I found out that my H was having an A with OW. At first we were doing really good working things out, then she found out his new cell phone number and started calling again. The affair continued again for a few more months then he broke it off.<P>We moved from that state to another and things were going fine for a few more months, then she found out our phone number on Thankgiving night and started calling again.<P>After that things just started to get worse. A few days ago, He called her now they are on the phone making plans to meet. He keeps on telling me that he just don't want to do this but the feelings are so strong that he just have to find out where all this is leading to.<P>I told me, as of now that I am his wife, and as for me and my son that we will always be here to support me, and when the fog is lifted from his eyes he can always come back. I let him know that I love him, but he tells me that he just have to go and see where this will lead to.<P>Can someone please give some advise on how to deal with this. I know that I should be angry and upset but for some reason I am not. Is this normal?

Welcome <B>maxine</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>Do start on a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>Check out my post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>Why a Plan A?...<BR>...it is your best hope at...<BR>1. recovery (long term) of your marriage<BR>2. (more importantly) to save your emotions and love for your H.<P>You can't stop him from going..<BR>...threats... and LBs aren't going to do it!<P>In the worse case scenario...<BR>...it will take you to a Plan B...<BR>...and then (maybe) a new life without your H!<P>But!!!<BR>Plan A for now... is your best bet!<P>Learn some of the basic concepts first...<BR>...then ask away!<P><B>You are not alone</B>!<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>