Couldn't find my skates. Son says "mom took them because a friend doesn't have any". I was thinking of telling her some of her "little secrets" tonight...that clinches it.<P>I am really annoyed. The nerve of her to lend them to him. I'm waiting for her to call me from work. I've got to hear this story.

Yup. Ever tell you the story of my wife taking OM two of my beers AND my frosted mug to his hotel room his first night away from home? Ouch!!<P>Go for it Rick - LB a little. It'll be worth it. Maybe call me first?<P>Dave

Rick, that is unbelievable. I think she needs a good spanking!

Can't wait to hear her story. <P>good luck in your letting her know a few truths. just don't do it in anger.

I'm sorry ....... what the heck is WRONG with getting a little angry now and then?<P>I say ...... be honest...... if it makes you angry ..... then say "It makes me angry, hurt, and cranky to lend my *wife* ..... AND my skates to this guy". <P>Why do the faithful spouses have to repress appropriate feelings? I wouldn't expect my children to put up with someone treating them in such a disrespectful manner ..... why should YOU have to be nice and not angry when the situation is appropriate for anger?<P>~~~~~ ugh<P>------------------<BR>~*~*Yesterday~*~*<BR>all my problems seemed so far away~*

She's wisely avoiding me....never called back, and has left work. Perhaps my tone gave it away. I called and said "Where are my skates?". There was a pause, then "I'll call you back". That was it.<P>Hey Dave, I keep a stock of frosted mugs in my freezer too! Don't know if OM ever drank from one, but I think it did happen once, when I was away. A beer disappeared.<P>I'll keep you posted. Thanks for all the replies.

I know that I am going to get flamed for this but here goes. I have been reading the story of Rick and clearly this is a really good guy.It seems apparent that the woman you fell in love with and married is no more. She is a different person. I know that you have children but it really seems unlikely that she is going to turn a 180 and return to the way she was. It is so irritating to read of her constant disrespectful behavior towards you. You are a great dad and I think eventually your children will be a lot happier with a new step mom as will you.

Wow, Rick, you have the patience of a saint. I don't think that getting peeved at the situation (and letting her know it!) is wrong AT ALL. She most likely thinks she can do whatever she pleases and no retribution will come about. Well, I can't imagine how you've held your anger in check so long, but I think you're a great dad and husband, and if she doesn't see that, it's her complete loss.<P>Her behavior is really appalling. If I were you, I'd let her know, in no uncertain terms, that her actions won't be tolerated. Sorry, but sometimes the WS (when they act like this) are just itching for boundaries to be drawn, it seems.<P>Good luck, you are a great guy Rick.

Funny thing here is that I don't KNOW that she took them for him, but I'm sure that any of you reading this know as well as I do that this is the case...doesn't take a rocket scientist.<P>Bryanp,<P>Personally I don't see any need for flaming. I know your position on these situations, and if I recall, you went though similar stuff and are NOW happily married to a wonderful woman. I respect your opinion, just as I respect others. I guess we are all willing to give it different timeframes. I don't have tons of hope that my wife will suddenly do another 180, but nevertheless, I'll know I did everything I can.<P>There are people on here, as you know, that stuck with their bizarre WSs, and have rebuilt their marriages. However, I hear you, and as I said, I do respect your opinion.<P>Addition: I had made a mistake in my reply to Bryanp...I had mistakenly put "not" instead of now, so I have fixed it and put NOW so it is clear. The way it read was opposite of what I meant.<P><p>[This message has been edited by Rick37 (edited January 27, 2001).]

Okay Rick, just couldn't resist this one.<P>If the OM is wearing your skates, I hope he lands on his TUSH very hard and breaks his tail bone so severly he can't sit down for a month ... that and he can't ummmm, well ... be AMORIOUS for another 6 months after that.<P>You get the pic, right? LOL<P>Love ya,<BR>Jo

Let me add to Jo's "wish"...<P>And, when W feels she must coddle him, let him be the type who is whiney, nasty and thoroughly unattractive when he is hurting.<P>That oughtta teach BOTH of them... <P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>