I'm starting a new job tomorrow so I might be just nervous. Something bothers me. We are in recovery for 8 months, moved away from OW. We bought a van, now we're gonna need a car soon since I use the van for my work. My H saw this car for sale, it's a sports car that I wouldn't pick out. He liked it. We called the owner and took a look. He test drove it, with the owner (female) for a couple minutes. No big deal, they came right back, of course. <P>Still I didn't like the sight of him driving away with a woman in the same car. It reminded me his A, how it started was in OW's car. Oh believe me, I'm not going to touch the same kind of car OW had.<P>Anyway, this car is red, convertible, sports car, something guys'd really like. He loves it, and it bothers me. It's not made for family like us with 2 children. I almost felt like saying "don't drive this with any woman on it except me." It sounds stupid so I didn't.<P>But the enthusiasm I saw in his eyes about this car, that bothered me. Am I jealous of a car? Am I crazy? I told him if he likes that much, go ahead and buy it. Maybe I shouldn't have. He says we still have time to look around, if I don't like it. I guess I don't like it. Then I feel bad if I keep him away from something he likes.<P>I've feeling stable and secure for last couple months, and something stupid like this bothers me. Is this just a guy thing and let him have it? I know the car isn't a problem... it's me! Or should I mention it bothers me? How much should I tell him? If I associate this with his A, he will think (and tell me) that I'm crazy and will be p*** off, probably. I kind of think I'm crazy too...<P>We are in the middle of healing, I guess, and I have sad days once in awhile. Am I projecting something negative on this car since I really can't talk about the A with him? I wonder...
