I stressed about it all weekend, praying he would call me. Of course he didn't. He has never called me. Why can't he just call me?<P>Anyway. I asked about his sKii trip and we talked for awhile about it. Then we talked about taxes and the car insurance. Finally I causually (ya right) said, the last time we talked you metioned going out to diiner, did you still want to do that? He said, ya we could do that. I'll call you.<P>So, it could have gone worse , could have gone better. Jo and I analized it and we think when he talked to me before and had alot to say and wanted to get together things were going badly with OW. I think her H might have just found out. Now he was gone away for a week and proabably went into withdrawl and went back to her.<P>So this time I am really going to wait for him to call. I got the financial stuff out of the way. He said he would call when he had all his tax stuff together. So I figure I have to hear from him by April 15th right?<P>It is so hard to continue to be patient. I just want to scream. I want to be back to where I don't expcet to hear from him. I hate this waiting.<BR>Lora<P>

Dear Lora,<P> Checking in on you.Hang in there.<BR> <P> Love and Prayers,beth

Lora-I don't have any advise for you, but just wanted to say I'm in the same waiting boat you are. . .and it's sooo hard. I always feel much better when I can be doing something about this mess, not just waiting (can you say controlling???).<P>It's horrible, but I'm going to do it, just wait & pray for paitence. I feel like God is stretching me in so many ways that I never thought I could be stretched. . but everytime I find the strength to do something that goes against my nature it actually makes me feel proud of myself. I've got way more strength than I ever thought I would.<P>Hang in there, keep yourself busy & take care.

Thanks Beth, Glad to hear from you.<P>Bitsy,<BR>Yes, I may like a little control too. But this seems so out of our hands doesn't it?<BR>I have made my decision, I want my marriage, now to just keep that in mind.<P>I am watching your story too. I guess I am lucky in a way to have so little contact with him. At least I don't have to go through this agony on a daily basis. And I don't have to do a flawless plan A constantly either, I can have my doubts and vents and then be over it when I talk to him.<BR>I wonder if I can continue though. <P>Jo and I talked about sending a plan B letter. But keep in mind he has never called me, never contacted me since he moved out. So I send him a letter that says dont talk to me? Just seems a little too funny. I think he is in the same place as your H. Maybe the affair is starting to loose its luster, but it is by no means over yet. We just have to hang in there and wait for it to be over. We are starting to see cracks and want to push for more.<P>Well, this time he will have to call about the taxes... maybe.<BR>Lora

Lora--I understand that since he isn't contacting you, telling him he can't seems pointless. But there can be a difference in him knowing you are waiting for his call and him not calling, than him knowing you don't want to hear from him.<P>Just a thought.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

Lor,<BR>I think I get your point. I guess I kind of want some indication that he wants to contact me... I am not getting it. Then I would think about a plan B letter. But maybe thats just me trying to play some reverse psycology game with him. While I am feeling so rejected and like he doesn't want me I am afraid to do it. Me trying to be in control perhaps.<P>I do think I was better before I talked to him and got my hopes up that he could be his normal self again.I haven't seen that guy for so long! I love him. It just made it hurt that much more to see him withdraw agian. <P>I will see how I feel with the contact for the taxes and if he asks me to dinner.<BR>Lora