my h had an affair a little over 2 years ago. there was a s born. we are trying to keep our marriage together. he has gone to court and set up support and visitaion rights. he says that he still loves me and knows that he hurt me in the worse way. he says he wants nothing to do with ow and wants us to get through this, he says he is trying to get over his feelings for her and i am trying to be understanding and here for him. i do not know how to handle all of this. we have two g's. i am trying to be strong for them also. how do i get through all of this without loosing everything, including my h of 14yrs??? please help????

Welcome <B>lost24</B>...<P>There is a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <BR>It's geared toward infidelity situations, and I'm not sure how much into recovery you're at... but do check it out.<P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>There is a separate forum that addresses just this situation...<BR>===> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&number=35&SUBMIT=Go" TARGET=_blank>Pregnancy/Child</A>.<P>There are so many in situations just like yours.<P>Having an already started recovery helps the best...<BR>...especially enabling a use of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>The Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA)</A>...<P>There is no one right solution for all...<BR>...and this will take courage and fortitude on your part.<P>You most certainly have my prayers...<P> <P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000254.html" TARGET=_blank>Jim</A> / <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>NSR</A>

lost24, sorry you are in this situation. you should come over and meet us at the pregnancy board. there are quite a few of us there. this is a very difficult situation. it hurts so much. we have all been there and are all at various stages of recovery. some of our husbands see the OC, and some don't. either way we are supportive and have all been where you are. come see us.<P>happy_girl