my H and i are recovering from his EA about 3 months now and i am making an effort to spend more time with him and to do things together... also Aing my butt off.... my problem is i dont think H gets it. yesterday throughout he day i asked him to things with me... build a snowman, do a puzzle, go out to eat, play in the snow .... all kinds of stuff. and everytime no matter what i asked he said he didnt feel like it.. so after frustrating hours of this i asked him what he would like to do his reply.. " have sex" ... maybe im alone on this bu i dont consider sex as quality time. i place sex in a different catagory. romantic times.. so needless to say i spent the day and evening crocheting and he spent his on the computer.. yeah i admit im jealous of the computer he spends more time with it than with me. Also i even hint at him being romantic. i send him Ecards and little love notes and he doesnt reply..... its not like he doesnt have the time he was on his computer about 9 hours yesterday i feel resentful that he could have taken 5 minutes to send me an email....ive mentioned this to him a few times saying he could send me an email or something and he just shrugs.....<P>he snaps at me for no reason and argues with me over stuid stuff/...... example... last week he got mad at me for getting the mail at the post office and he stopped on his way home from work and there was nothing there.. so he made the stop for nothing. so we ended up fighting the whole night because i got the mail......... I cannot plan A like this....<BR>in my heart i feel that he wouldnt treat the OW this way. snap at her and jump down her throat for no reason. im very resentful cause i know this is true and i withdraw into myself because of it... but i dont let H know my feelings on this. after all my Q's were answered we agreed not to bring her up cause H gets on the defensive and starts yelling for me to drop it.,. so its easier to avaiod that subject.<BR>i know ive done alot of rambling but any help and advise would be appreciated<BR>thanks all<BR>OB<P>------------------<BR>"The human Heart is often the victim of the sensations of the moment; Success intoxicates it to presumption and disappointment defects and terrifies it."<BR>~~Valney~~