Hi Everyone,<P>Quick Stats:<P>Approx date A started April 1999<BR>Confrontation/D Day was August of 1999<BR>Seperated April 29th 2000 (almost 10 mos)<P>In October of 2000 my H notified me that he was going to file for D, aft that announcement he began to acknowledge openly to family and friends that he and the OW were indeed a couple. Before that he was still denying that they were together to his family and most friends, said he left for OTHER reasons (OCs). H brought her and her bevy of kids to Thanksgiving and Christmas (2000) to my in-laws, THE "A" WAS NOW IN THE LIGHT OF DAY (Harley's). <P>Well, I just found out thru reliable sources that my H has said that he is not happy with his decision, he wished he was on his own, he doesn't want to answer to anyone, made a bad decision being with OW, doesn't want anyone telling him what to do, doesn't want to answer to her. He has also emailed me recently and the email content is an attempt at initiating contact by way of memories of personal things he and I have shared, heartfelt things. I am not biting. <P>Okay folks, lets do the math. Next month (March) will be the 6 month mark that the A is out in the open, where they (OW & H) are touting themselves a couple to ALL. Then lets look at the overall timeframe shall we? It will be 2 years this April that the A started (give or take a month or so). Yes 2 years, and from the reports I'm receiving they are definitely falling apart ... falling apart and headed toward a downward spiral. <P>I just wanted to share this news, and how my story is somewhat following the Harley's stats regarding the length and milestones of an A.<P>I hope you All are well, and say prayers for you every night. I can't imagine making it thru this thing we've all been thru without MB and my very good freinds here.<P>I'd like to hear what you all think about my recent information and welcome your interest.<P>Many prayers and lots of love.<BR>Jo <P>------------------<P>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited February 10, 2001).]

Dear JO,<P><BR> I am so happy to hear the good news!Another affair seems to be going down the drain.<BR> Beginning of my husbands internet affair was Nov 1999.Out in the open for the whole world to see,June 18th 2000.Unfortunately I have no sources to tell me how affair is going.<BR> I am cheering for you all the way!!!!<BR> Beth

Oh, No! Say it ain't so! I thought they were "soul-mates"!!! She was the perfect woman for him...how could they break up? You mean the grass wasn't really greener on the other side? Oh no!<P>ROLFMAO!<P>Really, its nice to hear that some A's are not the made-in-heaven things they were made out to be at the beginning.<P>Stick to your guns, though. Make him come crawling before you even acknowledge his existence!

Jo,<P>I don't want to rain on your parade, but PLEASE don't get too up about this. There have been at least 4-5 times over the last 2 plus years that I have had the same kind of reliable information... and somehow, the expected spiraling demise of the relationship never happened. It is sooooo hurtful to get so up about this kind of thing and then get slammed back to earth when the relationship simply continues.<P>Watch with caution and NO EXPECTATIONS... keep in mind that he is not telling people that he misses you and wishes he had never left you, but only that he doesn't want to answer to anyone (now THAT one sounds sickeningly familiar), etc.<P>That is NOT to say that he won't ever realize that he should have never left you ... but please don't wait up for him. <P>I do hope for the best for you (and for all of us here), and will be one of the first to whoop for joy if you come here with that tremendous news that all of us work for. You'll hear me, for sure.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Jo,<P>I never heard back from you since our last email. <P>How are you doing? <P>And what is your plan now?<P>Personally, I always knew this day would come. Don't believe me? Read some of your old threads! <P>But that doesn't mean the journey is over. <BR>You have to know what your next moves should be ahead of time. This is critical.<P>God bless, Hon.<P>L<BR>

Jo,<P>Sounds good so far!<P>Best of luck !!!<P>God Bless,<P>Bob

Resilient-Jeez, you're kidding??? Why didn't you tell him that's what would happen?<P>I still can't figure out what they are thinking. Good luck!

Jo:<P>I posted a reply to you on your thread in Preg/OC.<P>Catnip =^^=

Hey Jo, <BR>So, your little boy is still acting like a little boy, huh? Can't do without someone to cling to. Remind him how unfair he was to you about the boy, then tell him your not interested right now. I know how you feel, but I think that you are doing the right thing, not biting. I will call you soon.<P>Beth

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by cjack:<BR>Stick to your guns, though. Make him come crawling before you even acknowledge his existence!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Sounds vindictive to me, cjack.<P>

Perhaps a little vindictive. Sorry. I've been a little bitter lately. My divorce is final Thursday, and my STBX had just got done telling me that OM is the "salt to her pepper," and other such nonsense. <P> Not to mention the fact that he can't buy her a Valentines gift because his own divorce is costing him everything he has. And the fact that just 5 years ago, I quit my job and moved here with my then-fiance because she told me that "long-distance relationships never work," yet she is now leaving me for a man who lives 300 miles away!<P>So I was pretty happy to see an affair end. It gives me hope, which is in scant supply in my house right now.<BR>