Hey folks just curious if anyone here had suggested or actually used a lie detector to help put a starting point into the whole truth is being told this time. The thought came to me while my wife was grilling me about my revenge affair. I told her she knew every bit of the truth and I was hiding nothing. Then I offered to take a lie detector and she could ask about anything she pleased. <P>I only had one hitch that she takes one too. <P>I don’t ever recall reading about the use of this anywhere on these boards. Any opinions or considerations on this topic?<P><BR>I was thinking of a couple of real easy questions like.<P>1. Are there any secrets about xxx that have not been divulged?<BR>2. Are you attempting to mislead xxx in any way about your current activities?<P>Thanks,<BR>Mike<BR>

Can you say "love buster"?<P>Lie detectors are notoriously unreliable, particularly for people who lie all the time. If someone is used to lying, their bodies are too... <P>I can't imagine that it would be a particularly good thing in the long run.<P>Just my NSHO...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Forget the lie detector. I can tell you from experience that they do not work. When I was 20 years old and in college I applied for a job in a jewelry store which entailed taking a lie detector test. Needless to say this was back in my "hard partying days". I was quite the wild child lol. Anyway, they asked me if I had ever smoked marijuana (I said no) and if I had ever been drunk (I said once!). Needless to say these were both TOTAL lies (there were some other minor things too). I passed with flying colors. I think as long as you stay calm it won't show up as lying. I'm not even a good liar in real life either and I still was able to pass.

Hi Infidelity - I once worked for the FBI, and had to take a polygraph as part of the pre-employment testing.<P>It's a very interesting test, but I don't know how conclusive the results are. I'm a thinker, and I definitely think I thought "too much" about my answers to simple questions like my name and where I lived. When the test was over, I asked the examiner "how'd I do?" I was completely honest about all the answers - had nothing to hide, that kind of thing. But he said something like "It's weird, the only time anything changed was when I asked you about your name and where you lived." Needless to say I passed the test and was hired, but I don't know how conclusive the tests are, especially if the questions are very vague - like the two you mentioned. I would think the questions have to be "more specific." <P>I guess I would try to find out more information about the test before you actually go through with anything. Just a thought. . .

I asked my H to take a lie detecxtor test and he refused. Said he might get nervous. So I actually got my answer. dax