My H and I are on rocky ground right now. He always goes out for a few hours each night. Thinks its an LB for me to ask when he's coming home, because he is a 27 yr old man and shouldnt have to answer to anyone. He wrote me a letter recently stating that he felt like leaving. I was in shock over this. I have felt nothing but alone ever since. He has said about a week ago that he would not come home after work if he didnt want to work on us. But his actions tell me different. It seems as if he just says that he wants to work on it, but then when I try to figure out how, its a NIL subject. I dont know what to think anymore. Tired of living in a loveless marriage. I love him and I know that he loves me, but I dont feel anything from him when we are together. <BR>How should I ask him if he still feels like leaving? I need to know... <BR>I love him so much and I dont want to lose him... Any and all help is greatly appreciated...<P>Thanks<P>Roberta

Hi Roberta,<P>Sounds like you have read the articles here. All you can do is plan A. Can you talk him into counseling? Try to meet his needs, try not to ask the relationship questions for awhile. <P>One book I liked was How One of You Can Bring the Two of you Together. All you can cahnge is yourself, and sometimes a change in your attitude can affect his too.<BR>Lora

Lora, <BR>Thanks for your response. I have been plan-a'ing my heart out! I cant go on with him acting like he is so indifferent towards me anymore. I poured my heart out to him and all I get in response is basic indifference to my feelings. He acts as if he doesnt want to work on it at all. But when I ask him if he wants to fix things between us, he says that he wouldnt be living with me if he didnt. What does this mean? How can he think that that would be the only effort he should have to put forth towards our marriage. We have been married for almost 7 years... <BR>Just sad, thinking he doesnt want to try anymore..<BR>Thanks<BR>Roberta<BR>