FYI, I used to become enraged when my H looked in my purse or my phone directory and the reason I would get angry is BECAUSE I HAD SOMETHING TO HIDE. Kevan, if your W isn't doing anything wrong she should have no problem with you looking anywhere or asking questions if you want to.<P>Also, if she thinks counseling is a stupid idea . . . too bad. You need to take care of YOU right now, and it might not be a bad idea for your son to join you. Clearly he loves you and is having difficulty with this situation.<P>I hope she comes to her senses. If she doesn't, she'll be losing a special person who loves her very much.<P>Hang in there!!!