I don't think I've ever been hurt this bad before in all my life. I had a wonderful afternoon with my wife and then she had to go to work. I went by her work later as I said I would to tell her how it went in trying to win concert tickets. Of course I didn't win. My wife works in the mall and so I went by the bookstore and picked up her needs his needs. I went back to her work which she was off by now and we were talking. The OM showed up while I was there. All of the sudden she turned to me and said she had to go and told mne to leave. I asked her why I had to go when we were having such a good conversation. She simply said she didn't want to deal with my sh**. So I left and I'm really confused at this point. I thought everything between her and the OM was over but they arn't. I feel so used and frusterated. I thought things were going so well and then all of the sudden they just fell apart. I guess I'll wait and see if she is going to call like she said she would. Somehow I doubt it. I know the OM has been flaking on her alot lately and that is the reason I thought it was over. I'm extremly happy he is flaking on her but I'm also mad that he is hurting her. Anyone have any thoughts?

I'm sorry you were dismissed so hurtfully. Keep reading as much as you can. I am not much further along than you, but I can say that the "fog" thing is definitely real. It sounds as if your W is very confused herself and is still trying to juggle two lives. For whatever reason, we are the easier ones to treat poorly.<P>I am glad that you did have some fun conversation. I think that was a good thing to do. I can't help, but please know that you are not alone.<P>-LL

Have you tried to do the personality typing?<BR>Helped me to greatly understand my "H" and myself. Try it <personalitytype.com> Sorry I don't know how to do links.<P>So sorry you are having such troubles!<P>D/2000