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Ok oK.... my posts here have just plainly sucked. anger, anger anger, feel sorry for me please have pity on me. well... arent i the smart one??<P>I have to apologize to those who did read my last few posts that expressed anger, divorce, blah blah. I am truely sorry. <P>The divorce so far is on hold. Umm...things seem to be on a straight line...sort of.<P>What started the whole blow out is the fact that my sister (who had a fling..3 weeks worth) was found out. When she got her confession out of the way... she found that her hsuband had been unfaithful their whole marriage [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]!!!! Because we are family, all those feelings came right to the surface!! they need to put out a book "how to survive your friends/family affair" cause it drags you right down the hole with them...or it did me and my hsuband.<P>We (h and I) have come to a place that we are friends. Just friends for now, rebuilding that part of our relationship. yes he loves me, i love him, not in love, but love him just the same. The intimacy is none exsistant for reasons i can't name. (therepy is really needed here).<P>Renewal of contact is part of the reason. OM was at a local store..(he lives 118) miles away mind you!).... he was headed south to see his sister, and whoooo and behold i walked right into him.(damned coindence) I am shocked, happy, mortified... my recovery.... down the hole again. Is is as devestating? yes... do i get the feeling feelings were a little deeper than i thot they were?? [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] i am afraid so. Am i in deniel of truth? I guess so. <P>The nice thing is there is no fighting, we have been getting along nicely. I am not on a rollar coaster, i am mild mannered. Thanks to antidepressants!! <P>So ofcourse as we all go through all of this... where does it end? Does anyone get exhausted just thinking about it? <P>I found this little saying:<P>:NO ONE CAN CHOOSE YOURMOUNTAIN OR TELLYOUWHEN TO CLIMB...<BR>ITS YOURS ALONE TO CHALLENGE, AT YOUR OWN PACE AND TIME"<P>How true. PSSSSSSSSSSS..........you can run from your problems but you can't hide [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] and that is what iam faceing....i should have faced the music then, and now,,,the mountain seems more omnious than before [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Love ya all......btw..... i am still mercy.. hehehe...<P> [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] God Bless

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Mercy, I really feel for you. Running into OM must have seriously set you back. I know it can make recovery difficult b/c it brings all that stuff to the surface again.<P>My H and I are only 2 months into recovery and I know what running into OM would do to me - I don't even want to THINK about it. I'm fortunate he lives on the West Coast, that's for sure.<P>Just wanted you to know that someone here knows what you're going thru. {{HUGS}}

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Hi Mercy--<P>Glad to see your post. Yeah, the family thing can drag you down at times...and running into OM!!!<P>But, you sound pretty good, ya know? Hope things continue to look up...<P>Hugs--<P>Kathi

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susie..... <P>wellllllllll.....to say the least. Ofcourse this isnt the first time for a set back. He called me in Nove....HADNT HEARD FROM HIM SINCE MAY.... set back.<P>but the awful part of it all just says it isnt finished...but...hey.. today is a good day and ihope it stays that way...<P>((((((((susie)))))))<P>mercy<P><BR>Hey kathy.... hi hi hi...yes things are good today... i hope they stay thisway!!<P>((((cathy)))))<BR>mercy


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