Just got home at 11 pm and knew that as soon as I walked in the door H, would say I have to go to xyz. I say "whatever"<P>He then proceeds to tell me about what he bought at the store and I say I can find it in the fridge.<P>What's yoour problem? <BR>Don't tell me your going to xyz when you are really going to OW#1 or ?OW#2, you're not going to bobs, mikes, etc. you just keep assuming (angry tone)<P>I say why bother to come home at all when you come home at 3-4 am then go to work at 6am.<P>I have to get my clothes and I DO COME HOME<P>Is this some kind of manipulation stuff. I do come home so I have not abandoned the home. Is this for legal purposes.<P>Oh, I told him the lies were kinda making me laugh. OOOPS.<P>Too bad you stupid sh t. I really wish you could look in the mirror and see your self, really see yourself, the way the the real world and God sees you because you are Pathetic. <P>I am asking myself right now, Do i really want such a pathetic human to be married. Is the fight and pain really worth it. <P>VENT VENT, Sometimes I wonder. Does any body else wonder the same things.

HLM,<P> Maybe legal, for seeking joint custody in the future, but I doubt it. I would guess a serious case of fog and that he's really proud of the fact that he comes home to change. Whoever is in this state of mind is really not thinking clearly about tomorrow, so I doubt the legal aspect deserves too much merit. What comes next seems to be a hard stretch for WS's, even when counseled by close friends or attorneys. Sorry to hear of your painful situation, but just remember that it will get better some how some way. <BR>

Everybody thinks that way at times. At least I do.<P>There are no mirrors in their lives, and it isn't some kind of manipulation. It is the fog, and it takes time. I watched my wife come home most nights between 12:30 and 5:30. She repeatedly stated that it wasn't a problem because the kids were asleep. Sure.<P>It is incredibly frustrating, but know that you are not alone in how you feel.