He told me he got another email from OW. .something about she wondered if he stopped by her house because there was a newspaper left on her doorstep & it was opened to the page announcing the engagement of our BF's??? What kind of lame-o excuse is that to contact him???? Anyhow, he told me he emailed her back saying that it wasn't him and he didn't know who it was. I kinda wish he would have just ignored her email, but oh well.<P>You know, I never even asked him to tell me every time she contacted him, I just asked him not to lie to me. I think this is a very good sign-that he's telling me this on his own (maybe he stole my Surviving the Affair book & read it??). He said, I just wanted to let you know. I thanked him & told him how much it meant to me that he's telling me this stuff. And I just said something about she would probably be continuing to email him for a while. He said when he moves he's getting new email addresses, and he said then anything she sends me will just get sent right back to her, right? I said yep!<P>Just thought I'd let you know about the lastest!!

bitsy - maybe it's time to give him a copy of SAA?<P>WAT

bitsy<P>I'm wondering why he has to wait until he moves, just to get a new e-mail addy. I'm sure that he can "block" anything that he gets from her, or he can get a new e-mail addy now.<P>OW is desperate. I'm sure that she will continue trying to reignite the affair for awhile. It's 2 years later for my H & I (their brief affair wasn't as intense as your H & OW's was) and the OW still tries to finagle her way into our lives.<P>I'm glad that your H was honest and told you about this recent contact. You did the right thing by thanking him.<P>It's just a shame that we have to deal with these persistent Loser OW who have no freakin' clue and can't get their own lives!<P>p.s. If your H truly wants OW out of his life, will he write a letter of "No Contact" to her?<p>[This message has been edited by Survivor [aka_NoTrust] (edited March 02, 2001).]

WAT & Survivor-<BR>I don't think he's ready for SAA or a no contact letter yet, or at least not ready for me to ask him to read it or write it. I feel like he's been handling it fairly well on his own anyhow. Without too much pressure from me & I think right now, that's important to him. . and also a way I can show him changes in me. I want him to stop contact with her because he wants to, not because I ask him to. Especially since she's contacting him, he's not initiating contact w/her, although he's replying (but I don't think he's replying the way she wants him too!!). Also, I think it's still an ego stroke for him, which he still needs-BUT very soon I hope this will be comming only from me!!<P>I think that after he gets moved, and settled a little that we will begin to discuss these kinds of things. But I don't want to bring it up now. The things I have been saying to him though is stuff like, "We can make it through anything, we can work things out, no matter what". He likes it.<P>This is definately progress, and I only see it getting better. I've just got to hold off right now with any demands. It's not the right time yet. I'll know when it is.<P>And Survivor-I agree, GET a freaking life of your own!! He also told me yesterday that she just got a job (she mentioned this in her email to him-that's why she wasn't home when the "newspaper??" what dropped on her doorstep). She didn't even work??? She does not have custody of her children, what the he*& does this OW do all day? What a pitiful excuse for a human. As much ambition as Jim has, and as much importance as he puts on careers (he's always told me how proud he is of my w/my job, promotions, etc.) I can't believe he would even be interested in someone who doesn't even work at all??!! Just another example of the fog!<P>Thanks guys-I will most likely be using your ideas, just not yet!