I was talking to Jim on the phone, he's going out w/people from his "ex-work"-today was his last day. . and he was saying how excited he is about his new job & his OWN place (it's something he's never really done-all on his own). I told him how excited I am for him & I said, you're making a really good life for yourself & you've been working really hard at it for such a long time. He said, or should you say, I'm making a good life for myself & some other lucky person (I could tell he was smiling). We talked about something else for just a minute & then I said (smiling)-hey, did I ever tell you how lucky I am?? He said, what did you play the lottery & win? I said, yep, kinda-I've had to pay some taxes along the way, but I'm thinkin' I'm still gonna be rich. He laughed. See you guys, he totally knows, just like I do.<P>I mean for the most part right now when we talk anything about the future it's made into like a joke-but joking is still communicating right? I see it as, he's just not quite ready for me to say. . so, just WHEN do you want me to move there with you? So I just joke & play and it lets him know that I want him, that I want us, but it also doesn't put any pressure on him right now to actually have a discussion about it. And the impression I get back from him is that he's really happy to hear the things I'm saying-he's happy that I still want HIM, he's happy I'm still here, even after what we've been (or are going) through.<P>Hey man, I'll pay my taxes just like the next guy if that's what it takes to make me rich someday. . .

Hi Bitsy,<P>Sounds like you are having some fun. Great to hear you are doing well. <P>Take Care and have a nice weekend.<P>L.

Sometimes we aren't to say directly what we want. Then we feel safe joking and hinting. Being coy can excite while still being safe. My wife and I have been doing this for months now. (She is moving back now, and will be done moving in next 3 weeks or so You can make alot of headway and shore up your foundation this way. Good luck to both of you. .D.