i tried to plan a as best i i could concidering when h told me he couldn't deal with what he did to me he left, well for that matter that is what he told me. he moved staight in with ow, and tried to come back on 2 different accasions for just a couple of days, lo0ng stories for each, it wasn't until recently, if you read the post of ow through h in jail and the one about if i should date h. also i post that i just did to lori, if you can read it you will see that i am stuck with only one option. i have read all the books and plenty more. your advice?

Hrtbroken,<P>You have probably done all you can under the current circumstances. I can't help but think that if he has come back twice that he is confused. Maybe you should offer your books to him. Your situation is really different than mine and I probably did not have the right to respond the way I did. WHen paperwork comes in to the picture the seas get rougher-trust me I had to go see my lawyer today and by the end of April I will probably be posting in the Divorce section. You sound like a strong woman-keep posting!!

sorry, but i used to think i was strong, but it seems since this past weekend i am falling apart and don't know where to turn. i am the emotional support for my kids and dealing with all of mine also with there being no one for me. funny isn't it that they are doing what they choose and we are dealing with all the pain and hurt. i had a conversation with my 6yr old today who asked why did daddy have so many girlfriends and why does he have to kiss them. it was killing me inside but i asked him if it made him feel funny and he said yes that he doesn't want to be with him when he is with ow. i told him that he wouldn't have to worry about that anymore cause it would not happen, i won't let it. then he said good that means we will be going with daddy and you. i told him no i wouldn't be going and he said yes and started to cry and asked me why, i don't know what to say to that. my 4yr old told me that daddy has a new son, meaning 2nd ow son, and that he loved him more than us. i told i didn't think so, he's only been seeing her for about a week and her son goes everywhere. they actually found a bar where they can take him so that they can drink nice little family. i also said that daddy couldn't be daddy right now. my 1yr old is calling the next door nieghbor daddy and my 9yr old daughter thinks he is crazy and just looks at him weird and doesn't want to go with him. so how do i help them, deal with what i am going through, when i don't know how to deal with it.