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#904224 03/06/01 06:59 AM
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My H & I are back together but tonite he came home drunk and said that maybe sex is the only thing we have going for us. I am completely crushed, straight after saying that he said he loved me. I am so confused, I love my H very much but the emtional turmoil is killing me <BR>please help

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I Left: I don't know your story, but want you to know that we are reading and we do care... Are you getting any kind of counseling? Don't worry about marriage counseling if your husband won't go - get some counseling for yourself...<P>Alcohol has the interesting effect of making people speak whatever comes into their heads at the moment. Sometimes it is truth and sometimes it is mere foolishness. You cannot trust anything a person says under the influence of substances.<P>Keep posting. We might not always have any answers, but someone is always reading.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

#904226 03/07/01 10:34 AM
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Terri, I am new to this site - see just found out. I am reeading all the sites just to know - I am not sure what, but I think it helps. I just wanted to tell you that your peom by Emerson on coursage made me cry. Thank you for letting me believe that what I am doing is right and that no matter what he says this is helping. Thanks

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I Left, I second what terri said about the effects of alcohol. I know from experience how hurtful the things the WS spouse says under the influence of alcohol can be. But, they are not necessarily true. The anger expressed is not necessarily at you and may actually be guilt on his part. You may just be the easiest target since you may be the one he feels the guilt about. Knowing that he may say hurtful things he doesn't mean under the influence of alcohol doesn't make it any easier to hear after all you've been through (I don't know your story, but I mean being the BS). I also would recommend counselling. If you can afford it, counselling with one of the Harleys is very helpful.


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