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He e-mailed me that he wanted to drop by after working out at the club. He had to return my sunglasses that I left in the car on Saturday. We had spent a day together with our daughter.<P>He didn't say goodbye then. Or today for that matter. I was putting our daughter to bed and at least he waited this time for me. We talked for maybe ten minutes about our D, money matters, etc. He turns his back to me and goes out the door while I'm standing there, muttering something like gotta go!<P>Chick's, you say that we should put all the junk on the table. But he won't talk to me!<BR>How can I make him talk?!!<BR>
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I would say he is in withdrawl...<P>Too tired to fight, too tired to make up and just pain too tired.<P>People in that mode simply withdraw from everything, they ignore everything going on around them and cannot see the hands in front of their faces.<P>Saying "Good bye" would actually register that something is changing and for people who want to live under the banner of ignorance is bliss its just simply overlooked.<P>It isn't your fault and frankly I dont know how to "make" a person do anything they dont want to. Dr Hartley says to bring them back into a state of conflict... that at least while they are arguing they "care" about what happens... and from there to do everything you can to make the OTHER person happy (hoping they will return the favour once they are there).<P>Your choice.
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