I read your last post regarding recent events and I'd like to give you one piece of advice: STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP!!<P>You're perfectly within your rights to be upset with your W, particularly in view of the fact that she remains in contact with OM. While I wouldn't suggest that you insult or badger her, you can certainly have a conversation about the situation if she's willing to do so. I hope that she'll realize on her own that the marriage is in serious danger if this OM continues to be a part of her life. I can tell you that my H and I wouldn't have a chance if I contacted my former OM. I can't move forward while holding onto the past.<P>Try to Plan A as best you can. I know you're terribly hurt and upset, but please try. In reading through some of your previous posts, I realize that your W is homesick - this can put added stress on your marriage. Maybe if she goes home for a while (and is NOT in contact with OM) she'll begin to realize that she does want her marriage.<P>Just please stop being so down on yourself. Keep posting and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and your W. I wish you strength and courage. {{{Hugs}}}