We haven't done this in a while and there are some new guys on the forum, so for some comic stress relief, let's make fun of the OMs. Ladies, join in to bust on your OWs. (We intend no disrespect to the WSs on the forum - the best information I get always comes from former WSs.)<P>My wife's OM is an overweight, immature, arrogant bore. His VCR flashes 12:00 because he is not a real "guy" who can fix things. He's the type who always had to borrow tools - and then get you to help him use them. My wife and I laughed at him trying to poke a coathanger in his dryer vent to get a bird out. He is a slime's slime who took advantage of my wife's vulnerability after our son's death and was even a pallbearer. For breaking up two close, grieving families, he does not deserve to be called a father or a man.<P>There, I feel better.<P>WAT

The OW's dumbest lines:<BR>Said to me over a year after PA had begun: "I don't date married men." (Huh? Ohhh, she just *does* married men, no going out in public...)<P>Said to H one of the times we reconciled, in a nasty tone: "You and your wife deserve each other." (Duh, you ignorant...)

WAT,<P>Great idea. The OM is a controlling, greedy, selfish, arrogant home wrecker. My STBXW thought I was bad, she ain't seen nothing yet. He is worse about things that I ever thought about being. He hates to spend money. And has no idea what romance is. He can't maintain a relationship, and thinks of no one but himself. He took advantage of my STBXW when she felt she need some EN. What an @sshole. Thanks that made feel a little better.<P>Griz

i have one for you. this was said in a conversation that me and ow had after husband came back and left again. that god took away anymore chances of her having kids and that the 2 that she did see were gourgous, that your children are adorable, i said that they were our children. she also had the nerve to say that if she new me before any of this had happen that she wouldn't of done what she did with my h, ya right, you ----!

Well this is really hard for me because OW said so so many stupid things that I could right a book. Here are some of the best:<P>OW: I never slept with your H. I ain't talk to him or nothin ( master of the English language)<BR>ME: now why would he make something like that up?<BR>OW: I don't know, I think that he is just infatuated with me. He would always come tell me how much he loves you - I just listen to him talk about you--what a SAINT she is just there for men to talk about their wives.<P>different conversation:<BR>OW: I could have your H in my bed anytime I want.<BR>ME: Oh your son must be so proud that his mother is such a S**T!<P>One of the best is a love note she wrote my H. She professes her love and then at the end says " You should not doubt my commitment to you or our relationship, I guess we are both a just little insecure. I think she meant to say unsure but her stupidity shows through- Freudian slip maybe!<P>If you looked up definition of White trash loser tramp it will say SEE (ow name). <BR>She told my H was only the 2nd guy she had ever been with. In reality she must have just started over after she ran out of fingers and toes, I think she meant this was the 2nd time she started over! Later my H had to sit and hear all the stories of who did her, where and how many times.<BR>She could not figure out why she has such a bad reputation???<P>Well I could go on and on- sometimes I just sit and laugh, but other times I feel so very very awful that her poor kid has to grow up with her. I once told her that if she would just start charging for her services she could pay for the therapy her son is going to need!<P><BR>Have fun<P>Joyful<BR>

OW told me that she told my H that he better have not left me for her and she had the nerve to tell me she had morals and my accusations of the A were a slap in the face to her!!! I have never really seen OW face to face because she hides!!!! OW is on her 2nd marriage has 3 children and has to live at her parents house-her house is literally falling apart and has homemade No trespassing signs around it (whacko!!!) everyone one in H's famly says its a DUMP...I think she is a dump....Thanks for the vent-I really do not like to think about the wench because it hurts too much-<P>Advice: Make up a name for OW or OM (like wench) instead of saying their name it helps some....

I have not had the wonderful opportunity of chatting with the OM. I'm afraid I would do something that might either ruin his carreer or put me in jail or both! This doctor, which is the slime of the earth decided that he needed to get involved with my wife who is a nurse. You know..General Hospital in real life! BOYTOY had told her that his 15 year marriage was only a marriage of convenience. Now if that is true, then his 3 kids would be also be just a convenience????? BOYTOY is leaving his wife because there has to be something better out there!!! I hope someday his scalpal slips and cuts his b**** off during an emergency C section.<BR>Mike<p>[This message has been edited by mbtrk (edited March 08, 2001).]

Ok, this is new to me but it could be fun...<P>In my case, the OW stands for 2 things: Other and Older woman. <BR>The SheShe (my name for her) told me when I confronted H and her at work (where they though they were safe) that I was being "immature."<BR>I told her that maybe when I got to be as old as she was, I be able to screw around on my husband (like she had) with someone else's husband and it wouldn't bother my conscience either.<BR>

GAJ,<P>You reimnded me that OW is also older than me and H-6 yrs older-she also called me immature!!!

Got to chime in on this one.<P>I have, unfortunately, had several conversations with f**kbuddy. In all of these, he keeps telling me that I have to have respect for him and his house and his phone, etc.<P>So this last time, I asked him if he had ever shown me or my children any respect when he was taking their mother and my wife away. Didn't quite have an answer to that one.<P>But, I guess love is blind. He is an armored car driver, I have multiple degrees. He has two children in different states that he sees infrequently, I have children by a previous marriage that I see several times a week, in addition to being the CP for our two children. He has never really held a long term job, I have had several long term jobs. And I could go on and on. <P>But, "he is a great guy, and he treats me good." Oh wait, another one for the WS dictionary. Tranlation-"The sex is exciting, and he doesn't expect anything from me."<P>Thanks for the vent.

grandpabri - too funny! - "f***buddy"<P>WAT

Hi there, <P><BR> Have to join in.....when I confronted the OW she said in her "highpitched, ultra feminine, fake "voice......"I just want to assure you that there is NOONE in this world who loves your H more than I do"...I just about barfed....... (I think she thought she was in some kind of romance novel or something!) LU

My favorite was when I first had suspicions (the first week of the EMR) so I pressed redial on the phone and lo and behold... I said "This is MM's W, why would he be calling you?" This is all I said. She answered "I have no idea, I haven't even talked to him since I quit (H's workplace). I can't even believe that you are trying to insinuate that I would have an affair with a married man. I am NOT that kind pf person and I totally resent this phone call!" Funny when I saw the cell phone bills they had been in very regular contact since she left the job. Guess she was "that kind of person" after all. I wish I had pointed that out to her when she called me to tattle when he dumped her a--.<BR>

OK!!!<P> I was going to start a post like this myself! Thank you!!<P><BR> OW Gave my H the impression that she doesn't do this. (CHEAT) The man she has been living with for 10 Years,<BR> left his W and C for her after their 3 year A!!!!! DUH!!<BR> Cheat with a Cheat on your Cheated to get??<P> When my H told her I wanted a D. She could not understand why? Told him he should work it out. While she secretly met with him. <P> She is very manipulating. She lives in FEAR of me telling her MAN. She will loose her prestigous JOB!!! SELFISH<P> When her (H)? children came to visit, she was not at all hospitable. (She is 45 years old not 19)She never wanted any kids. So she not a stepmom.<P> She does not like talking to her (H) about his kids. She wants to focus on their JOBS. SELFISH CONTROLLING SHALLOW<P> She does not believe in GOD!! <P> All she talks about is her JOB and MONEY. SHALLOW<P> She is my H only a woman.He met his match!!except for a few important details. He is a Christian. Is not prochoice.<BR>Is not procheating. But she was fun to talk to.<P>------------------<BR>Deb

Had to add to this. I never met OW but here are somethings my husband said:<P>You would really like her she's just like you! (Yah except 11 years younger -She 19 he 32 PUKE!!!!)<P>She wants more than anything for our marriage to work out- Then she calls and tells H she wants to do something to herself (kill herself?) because of the pain of losing him. Now that's real mature. <P>Tells husband not to leave me for her as she wouldn't want to be the one who broke up the marriage and she couldn't guarantee a long term relationship with him anyway. Like her actions would have had nothing to do with it had he left me for her at the time. Sound familiar TRS?<P>

This looks like a growing bandwagon & I want to give my 2 cents. First off the OW demands her privacy. Will only do it away from home (unless she thought she was losing H, then opened the doors, lost the mystery of why he could never go there, it was just a plain average house). Thinks e-mail addresses are private. OW thinks it is ok to spread her legs all over the counties but heaven forbid she get caught. Wants future meetings to be 'discreet'. Is there anything discreet about an affair? <P>OW prides herself on being a college grad (degree in Biology) but works as a seamstress, tea lady with her internet website & massage lady in waiting. Then proceeds to down anyone else that works for a living. Because she feels she is better than them. <P>OW thinks her body is great. H says she is flat and not as pretty. Do I believe that? Not sure. <P>OW thinks she is an honest and virtuous person. With morals and character? Encouraging H to lie, cheat and steal. Hmmm. Tells H that 'truth is pure'. What truth, commiting adultery? <P>OW feels it is her job to advise H on how to handle family problems. Well, OW is the one adding to the family problems, our family really doesn't need advice from someone who wants to break up the family. Especially when OW is jealous of our little one. <P>OW wants to turn me in as an abusive mother (OW has never been a mother), send me to jail (with giving a reason), threatened to go to my company and spread vicious rumors to defame my character and get me fired, make assumptions about FIL (father in law) picking up his grandson from school, telling me to move out of this state, calling me all kinds of names then saying she never called me any names. Maybe she has amenesia or something. <P>When upset with H, she writes him the riot act about how bad a person he is and how she wishes she never met him, but how much she wants to be with him. A confused woman? Yes. <P>Why does she do this? Her answer: Because she loves my H from the bottom of her heart. <P>Wow with friends like that who needs enemies?<P>Guess this is enough for starters. <P>L.<P>

grandpabri,<P>Very Cool Name: <I>F**kbuddy</I><P>I will have to remember that one.

Ok this one is really anything she said but what i said to her. this was after the time he came back and left. i wanted her to hurt like she hurt me. so i told her about the time 6wks before this conversation when h came over here, he left work early, and we had a little sex thing. she didn't believe me. so i told her about it. told her how she was calling the whole time and when she didn't get an answer she called his bf and he called h so then he called her back saying remember how the cell screws up, well he didn't get any of her calls. told her that he was in the little champ and asked if she needed anything. then she said to me, i remember that, i didn't think he really was in little champ. busted, i got mine that day!!!!!

Thanks for all of the compliments on my pet name for OM. As a matter of fact, she told the judge that is what I call him. So it is forever memorialized in our court documents. <p>[This message has been edited by grandpabri (edited March 08, 2001).]

The ow told me should wouldn't normally go after a married man- normally- she's 21, looks to me that she is starting her normally...Couldn't stand the immature college boys...huh? Laughed at my husband for wanting to get his children babtized...And I love the I'm sorry, it was easy to pretend I didn't exist, and wishing my H and I well, and telling us she knew we would make it- after the night before telling my H that we weren't right for one another--interesting considering she knows nothing about me...My H never dissed me, but she convinced him that I was many things he'll admit were never true...some type of brainwashing technique---just like my H still doesn't know how he treated me like crap for the entire time he was having an A- never before, not since....Interesting what we lead ourselves to believe....