last nite H LM on my c-phone. Telling me about taking kids to OW#2 (the house where all the wayward people go) house for slumber party. Girls would have slumber party and S and H would sleep on couch. While all this bothers me, it is not my high priority of being bothered by..(that is a stupid sentence)<P>Anyway, he says "Now relax, this is not another "OW#1 name" thing. I really appreciate your patience. Don't worry. Blah blah blah.<P>Appreciate your patience. Is he noticing the Plan A stuff I have been doing and the love busting that I am not doing. Does he recongnize that "we have problems and maybe we could fix them" the hope meter inched up and bit and I am nervous because being deceived and then falling again is horrible.<P>BTW, he says he did break up with OW#1 but I don't really know if that is true. I want to believe that but I can't. It makes me afraid that if he did break up with her and he still doesn't want to be married, then that would seem almost worse then my marriage falling apart d/t A. Does that make sense.<P>Anyway, the other nite, we were lying with my sick daughter and he put his hand on my hand for about 10 seconds at least. I was in shock. Did not respond either positively or negatively. I liked it and I wanted to grab it and him and kiss and hug, etc. but I didn't.<P>HMMMMMMM.<P>Hopelssmom

Dear Hope,<P>Good morning. Good to hear you are 'feeling' progress but like myself, I do not want to get all my hopes up, yet. You are wise. In the meantime, patience is a virtue to cultivate. <P>I don't think it is wrong to let your H know how much that gentle touch meant to you. Leave him thinking. That is our advantage. The OWs of this world want to do the thinking for our H's. If our H's are allowed to really think for themselves, they would despise the OWs in a minute because they would see what we see. <P>Anyway, keep thinking positive thoughts. The fact that you are thinking shows that you are trying to keep a level and clear mind. Use it as a good sign but do not let other disappointments get you down. When you do, come here and vent. OK??!?<P>L.

I would take it as a good sign. Obviously your husband is noticing something. Remember..don't be the sourse of his unhappiness. The MB principles do work!<P>Tammy<P>------------------<BR>I used to be "Hopeful in Michigan" but the board will not allow me to use that password anymore.<P>A LITTLE kindness can make a big difference!<P>We can survive this!