Hey All,<BR>Here we go again. My daughter had her 5th b-day party on Sat. at my house. My W came over to help with the party. From the time I talked to her at 9 a.m. on the phone until she left with the kids she had a hair across her a**.<P>Here is what happened. I was upbeat and having a good time with the kids. She on the other hand was sulking and moody. Obviously seemed like she did not want to be there, as she started *****ing at me about this and that. So we did a party fot Daughters friends and played games and had a great time. At 3 pm we were going to have family over and try to get the party stuff out of the way in one day.<P>W and her sister are not getting along at all. Her sister doesn't agree with what my W is doing and refuses to make like it's ok. Anyway...when my SIL came in the door, W started in on her in front of everyone. Hence....a 39 year old woman ruining a 5 year olds party. My W packed up the kids and left (it was her weekend with them) while her family was still sitting there. Didn't help clean up or anything.<P>Part 2...<BR>W was supposed to be at my house at 7 a.m. to get the kids ready for school like she usually does on her days off. She didn't tell me that she was on call, so I assumed a regular day. I came down stairs at my usual time, the kids are still in bed, assuming that I didn't need to get them up early, and there was a message on my answering machine. Hi! I got called into work! Now this is at 6:25...I usually leave at 7. Lunches have not been made, cloths are not ready, kids are still in bed. I rush around and get things as ready as possible. W calls...sorry about today, I forgot to tell you I was on call!!! THen has the guts to ask me..."you sound stressed...how come?" AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! <P>Once again...because of her irresponsibility, I was almost late for work, and was late to a meeting that I needed to be at. She has never had to do anything on her work days. And now that she feels that she is free...it is only getting worse. Thank god, that her family is so supportive, and was willing to help out on emergency sitting today. Could have been a disaster. <P>Phew!!!!...needed to vent, before I have my say with her later today. May be tough not to LB on these two things.<P>Mike

Mike,<P>Good luck on not LBing. on even the tinest bit on angry & consider it an LB.<P>Good luck.<P>[This message has been edited by sing (edited March 12, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by sing (edited March 12, 2001).]

Sing...<BR>You know what? I don't know if I even care. She can't come into my house and treat my guests like that for one thing...and she can't be some self indulgent that she ruins a 5 year olds b-day party. Which I'm sure she will deny, and say that I am blowing everything out of proportion!!<P>I will not let her treat me like that either. I can not except her throwing things on me (I think Rick can relate to this) and thinking that this is OK!!!!<P>So...I am at the point where I really don't care. She needs to get LB'd and in this ase it means Love bopped right in the a** with my foot!<P>Mike<P>Mike

Mike,<BR>I know what you are going through, my x pretty much leaves everything up to me. What I have done is really expect nothing from her. That way, when she doesn't help out, it is not that big of deal.<P>In the two years we have been separated/divorced x attended the kids parties the year of separation. For our d's 12th at an amusement park, x just walked around bored and tired because she worked the night before. For our s's party she acted like nothing was happening even though the night before I almost got myself arrested for confronting her at owrk about lying to the kids about things.<P>This year, I took d and her friends to another amusement park and x didn't go. She didn't help pay either.<P>For my son's birthday, x was out of town and was getting married. She still hasn't done anything special for son.<P><BR>So set your sites low and that way you won't be disappointed and when she does help out then thats icing on the cake.<P>God Bless,<P>Bob

Dear mbtrk,<BR>I suppose you wish a particular alien would be abducted by other extra-terrestrials.<BR>Her behavior is typical of the selfishness that these people wallow in.<BR>Sorry to hear that she did this, it is unacceptable. She is visibly having a hard time appearing the vilain in the show, even being judged the bad guy by her own family,<BR>and is reacting violently and with a bad temper.<BR>You are doing a great job with the kids, nobody could humanly expect more.<BR>My W and I are doing fine this week, we had a great weekend and my W admitted for the first time "I'm really sorry for hurting you so much, I don't know why I did what I did".<BR>We have agreed to be nice to each toher and get on with our lives, "if you still want me".<BR>Best wishes from France,<BR>Steve.<BR>

Mike - irresponsibility is part of the WS code of dishonor.<P>A WS is,<BR>Irresponsible,<BR>Back stabbing,<BR>Destructive,<BR>Antagonistic,<BR>Selfish,<BR>Thoughtless,<BR>Disrespectful,<BR>Moody,<BR>Wasteful,<BR>Cowardly,<BR>Corrupt, and <BR>Blasphemous.<P>WAT<BR>

Mike,<P>Only have a second, but are you sure you didn't just cut and paste one of my old posts? Just kidding, but sounds so similar it is incredible. If they only knew about the script.<P>Hang in there.

Well...I did LB a little bit. Well maybe a lot. I called the wifes house to talk to her and she wasn't there. I told her that what she did was unexceptable and I can't tolerate her inconsiderate behavior. I will not be taken advantage of and her job is no more important than mine. <P>She did not return my call and I heard through the grapevine that she knew I was really pis**d off. SO today she called to talk to the kids and started trying to relay messages through them...another thing that I will not tolerate.<P>Wat...I couldn't have said it better...<P>Steve E...I am glad that you and yours are doing great!!! Too bad your W couldn't send some common sense to my wife!!!<BR>Good to hear from you again my friend!!! Keep in touch!!<P>Rick...Do you know where your wife is? Are you sure that she isn't running back and forth. Our situation is so similar it's uncanny! I'll loan you my baseball bat if you want. I can handle almost everything except being inconsiderate of me and the kids and being irresponsible when it comes to the kids. I see teen age kids every day at school that show more maturity than my 39 year old wife! Some of them are teen mothers! Do you know of a store that sells "Wake Up call""??? LOL<P>Mike