I just have one question, after the affair was over, and ow was totally out of the picture, did the spouse not move directly back in to sort out there feelings? did they still comunicate with you? and did they finally come back home? mine was to date and take it slow? has anyone gone through this?

just one more thing, did it eventually work out?

h has called twice this evening. he's driving back from boston with his bor, first call was to ask me to try and call his bro on cell phone for him cause he lost him, said he was going to stop at every exit and try and call him and then me, guess the ow #2 is totally out of the picture or he could of called her to do it. when i got back in touch with him he had found him and told me that he really appreciated it. then he just called again and asked me what i am doing tomorrow, that they are still on the road and probably wouldn't make it to pick up bother's wife at airport and that this driving 24 hrs is killing them and if i wouldn't mind doing it. they were stopping to sleep. i told him that i didn't mind doing it, he said he really really apreciated it. me being the nice one again, but at least i leave him with some good thoughts tonight while he is sleeping in a rest stop. i guess one up for me

just wondering if there was anyone out there with insight