When I got home Saturday and looked at my caller ID I noticed H had called me three times and when I opened my front door H had left insurance info for me between the doors-which means he also came over-I gave H a Plab B letter last month and in it I said he could only contact me directly if he wanted to reinvent or marriage-before he would not contact me unless it was to yell at me for something and he has only done this a couple of times these last four months-other wise I have had no word from him. He did spend go to OW's house Saturday night and Sunday so that relationship is still active. He has not called back or anything since Saturday so maybe it was just to vent on me for something else....any suggestions?????<P>P.S. Keep in mind that H has filed paperwork against me-back in February-this is when I sent the Plan B letter. H asked his family last week if he could bring OW for them to meet and they said no. Last week I agreed to a dissolution because I cannot afford a divorce so he should be getting that response from his lawyer this week. Also, remember I have nor existed to this man for four months...I guess you can say I am afraid to contact him because I am afraid he just wante dto vent at me for something else...but he did not go to OW's house Saturday until after 8 pm-I thought that was strange-I mean if they are planning to live together why aren't they spending all day together now?? Who knows-I am more confused now.....<p>[This message has been edited by Trs (edited March 13, 2001).]

Trs:<BR>In plan "B" don't contact him. I understand that you really want to, but be strong. He has done so much to you and if he was calling to vent or yell at you as he has done in the past, don't let him. You are doing great. In you letter to him you let know what you wanted. Stick to your plan.<P>It is good for him to wonder about you!<P>Good luck,<BR>Judy

Trs, When my H first left home and moved in with OW, he would only come by to yell at me. Then I found MB and started Plan A and things got much better between us, but every time it seemed too good, he'd withdraw for about a week of no contact, so Steve H advised Plan B. I blew it almost immediately, but then, without even restating it, H called our contact person and told her he was honoring Plan B. He seemed almost too happy to oblige, which got me feeling like I wanted to contact him out of desperation, but I didn't. Now I'm back on Plan A because he's trying to break off relationship with OW. Things can change, they certainly have in my case and one plan may work for a time. Right now it sounds like you should stay with Plan B. Good luck.