H called me today-said he called me Saturday to check on the house and how I was doing?????????Had a nice 10 minute conversation with him.....I WANT OFF THIS ROLLERCOASTER FOLKS!!!!! Why is he worried after 4 months of nothing????!!!!! I DON'T WANT TO GET HURT ANYMORE.....HELP!!!PRAY!!!!<P>[This message has been edited by Trs (edited March 15, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by Trs (edited March 15, 2001).]

Could this <I>pleasant</I> interaction be used as leverage to get you both into counseling, where you can work out your problems with each other even if you don't end up back together?

Dear TRS,<P>You are now dealing with a new set of issues. After all that no contact stuff (which you are used to by now), now there is contact. Step back and take a look. Are you on this rollercoaster because you don't want your marriage back? I think not. So now it is showing signs of going up, take the ride if you want to see progress in your marriage. Be cautious as to what the reasons are for the contact thereby protecting yourself from further hurt. <P>You are not the driver in this ride, yet. Be patient and watch. <P>Remember my motto: Keep them on their toes and make them wonder what you are up to. It is hard to keep an A going if they are constantly on their toes. <P>Take Care,<BR>L.

Sorry-didn't mean for everyone to get the wrong idea-yes I want to work on our marriage-i am just afraid of hoping and hurting but it goes with the territory...I told H that I would still hold on to his stuff if he did not come and get it- I said the last thing I want to do is force him out the door-I reassured him that this is his choice for us to be apart. Also told him that I did not put the bank account in my name yet because I did not want to step on his toes...2 weeks ago he left me a not saying I had to look into my options for financial reasons and he would not help and now he is asking if I need help? When I confronted(nicely) him on a bill he did not pay and I had to pay a fine on it he kept apologizing-I said it was fine and I took care of it. I noticed on caller id that H tried to call me 3 times Saturday evening and he came over-left an insurance paper between doors (usually leaves stuff in mail box). I know a couple of weeks ago he asked his family to meet OW and they said no. I have been on Plan B for about a month and gave him a letter a month ago telling him to use our contact person unless he want to work on the marriage -than he could contact me directly......Afraid to hope-it was nice talking to him though.....