Group,<P>I've been plan A-ing for 9 months. She continues to have contact with OM and "can't" stop. She claims its only friendship...I can't really be sure.....and I shouldn't have to worry.<P>This is eating me up and I've got to protect myself, my own mental health. Seriously considering moving to Plan B.<P>How do I get this prepared. Our lives are so deeply intertwind after 24 years! I really don't know what I need to do to get ready. Should I let her know what I'm planning and ask her to negotiate with me on a fair distribution of the $ and bills? We still have 2 in college and we are up to our eyes in student loans, but I don't want my kids to suffer,and I don't want to stick her with all that responsibility.<P>I would appreciate any advise you guys have....I've never been through this....some of you have.<P>THANKS.<BR>John

Do read...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000177.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101 (2nd ed.)</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000413.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 201</A>.<P>Equitablity of everything is probably the best you can hope for...<BR>...and yes those logistics are the hardest part!<P>AND... Please... Please... Please don't punish the kids/college...<BR>...that was my biggest challenge.<P> <P>Jim