I know what I need with all I am going through..<BR>But I don't know what to read.<BR>Most things are not really helping me. Not even giving me any new information, not giving me any comfort. I was wondering if there was a type of Christian prayer book out there for people who have experienced infidelity, betrayed spouse, wayward spouse, and hopefully for the couple trying to survive the affair. I need that.<BR>And if there isn't one, someone should write one!!!!

I haven't found any devotion books written specifically for the couple or individual trying to heal after infidelity and I have looked far and wide. There is an awesome devotion book that I believe fills the bill as well as anything available right now though. It is titled Experiencing God Day by Day by Henry Blackaby. God led me to it about 6 weeks before the affair was revealed and it ministered to me tremendously in the weeks and months afterward. As I came full circle towards the one year mark and reread those first devotions from the weeks prior to my finding out about the affair I was amazed again at how specifically they prepared me for the coming storm. I highly recommend this book.<P>I've thought about the need for a devotion book specific to infidelity and have considered taking a stab at writing it.....that is a matter of prayer for me.<P>You might also want to take a look at Torn Asunder by Dave Carder. It is a wonderful book on rebuilding after an affair that is scripturally sound and very practical....not a devotional, but very helpful.<P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31

Crete,<P> You may find the reading material offered at this website helpfull<BR> <A HREF="Http://www.restorem.org/home.html" TARGET=_blank>Http://www.restorem.org/home.html</A>

Crete -<P>There were a couple of books that helped me - though they didn't specifically deal with the issues of infidelity. The books I would highly recommend are:<P>"Just Like Jesus" - Max Lucado<BR>"Three Steps Forward, Two Steps Back" - Charles Swindoll<BR>"Strengthening Your Grip" - Charles Swindoll<P>Also, as a WS, reading the Bible - particularly Genesis and King David's history really helped me to deal with what I had done. I know you are a BS, by really, I would just pray before I started to read the Bible, and asked God to lead me to the message that He wanted me to hear that day. And, I read a lot of the Pslams written by David - that helped me, but again that was from the persepctive of a WS.<BR>

Crete,<BR>You might try:<BR>--Prayers that Availeth Much, (no author) by Word Ministries. I believe there are at least vol., specific prayers on harmonious marriage, troubled marriage infidelity, temptations. I prayed the troubled marriage one for about 6 months straight, Bozos_Deb posted it here spring of 99 (she might have been "not again" at that time).<P>--Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, 30 prayers for your husband by topic, including temptation, fears, sound mind. I highly recommend this one, and there is a Forum here on MB for discussion under Women's Bible Study.<P>--What happens when women pray by Evelyn Christianson, not specific prayers, but a way to make sure your prayers are righteous & effective.<P><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

Hi Crete,<P>I saw an article last week on iVillage based on the book <B><I>Surviving Betrayal: Healing Meditations</I></B>. I have yet to find the book myself but I was intrigued. I might look for it tonight while I'm out and about. <P>Here's the link to the <I>iVillage</I> site: <A HREF="http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/experts_by_month/articles/0,9632,166975_88000,00.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/experts_by_month/articles/0,9632,166975_88000,00.html</A> <P>My H is a recovering addict and I found great comfort in the Al-Anon "bible" <I>The Courage to Change</I>. It helped me to let go and to come to terms with the concept that no matter how hard I try to control what my H, the WS, does he will still do what he wants. I can only control and change myself. This helped me to stop white knuckling my marriage and to stop obsessing over what my H is or isn't doing.<P>Let us know your thoughts if you find this book or any other book.<P>God Bless!<P> <P>------------------<BR><B><I>RECOVER * REFOCUS * REGENERATE ~ BREATHE * RELAX</I></B><P>By Eleanor Roosevelt ~~<BR><UL TYPE=SQUARE><BR><LI>"People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built." <P><LI>"No one takes advantage of you without your permission."<BR></UL><p>[This message has been edited by Free2BMe (edited March 20, 2001).]

A good devotional for hard times (not specifically betrayal, etc.) is....<BR> <A HREF="http://www.backtothebible.org/devotions/classics/streams.htm" TARGET=_blank>www.backtothebible.org/devotions/classics/streams.htm</A> <P>It's from the book "Streams in the Desert" and has very good meditations about suffering, tought times, etc.<P>And another is....<BR> <A HREF="http://www.rejoiceministries.org" TARGET=_blank>www.rejoiceministries.org</A> <P>Then susbscibe to "Charlyne Cares" a daily devotional that is e-mailed to you and is for people standing for the restoration of their marriages.<P>I wish you luck...I'm going to the ivillage site to check out that other link.<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>

Thank you for the link, Mrs. O!<P> <P>------------------<BR><B><I>RECOVER * REFOCUS * REGENERATE ~ BREATHE * RELAX</I></B><P>By Eleanor Roosevelt ~~<BR><UL TYPE=SQUARE><BR><LI>"People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built." <P><LI>"No one takes advantage of you without your permission."<BR></UL>

thanks, everyone.<BR>Mrs.O, I went to the backtothebible link and really liked the page they had yesterday-March 20.<BR>They give a knew page everyday.<BR>I was wondering if there is anyway I can get the 20th...I didn't copy it and I want it !!!<BR>Is there anyway to get past pages?<BR>Thanks, again, everyone...I greatly appreciate all the suggestions..

Dear crete,<P>On the Back to the Bible/Streams in the Desert page, over on the right is a "box" titled "More Devotionals" and if you hit "previous" it should take you to the previous days devotionals...<P>Hope that helps.<BR>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>