I have an affair last year and it lasted only 1 mo. When H found out, I stopped and have no connection whatsoever with the OM. H moved out a couple day after D-Day. I asked him and begged him to stayed and talked it out but he refused and said "our relationship is over". I was devasted and depressed. I know I was wrong and asked H to forgive me but to no avail. H is filing for divorce. We've been married for 7 years this June. I called him every day but all I get back was him cursing, yelling, belittling and screaming and verbally abusing me. I wanted to save my marriage. I wanted to give my marriage a second chance...but how? I tried being patient and have him verbally abusing me. How can I better communicate with him? He's not listening to me at all and every word that comes out of his mouth is F** to me. How can I calm him down? <P>Thanks for the response.<BR>

I'm certainly no expert here. Being the BS I can imagine what your H is going through. <P>Maybe, after you have expressed all the hope and remorse in your heart, your total commitment to the marriage ... and then let him know you will wait patiently, and hope for the opportunity to repair all the damage. Then keep silent.<P>Pray. The good Sheperd will leave His flock to find the lamb that is lost. Forgive yourself. He will forgive you.<P>