It has been about 3 months since d-day. Of course, I don't shake like I did when I found out.<BR>But I still shake all the time. I think my nerves are completely shot. I was wondering if anyone else went through all this shaking and if it got better and if there are things I can do about it. It is a weird topic, I know. I just haven't really stopped shaking since d-day and it worries me. It is embarrassing and obvious that I am going through some tough times. I'm only 26 and shake like my 70 year old grandmother use to. Will this get better?

Have you seen a doc about anti-depression medication?<P>WAT

Crete, you've been traumatized and you need help. I think anti-deps would help.

I know that I feel numb a lot, but I know that I laugh and smile with my H, too. So, I wasn't thinking I was medically depressed. Do you think that the shaking is a sign of depression..I really didn't want to have to resort to meds. I thought I was doing fairly well coping. It is the shaking that seems to be a pretty good constant...I do have times when I don't shake, but the majority of the time, I shake. Right now I'm shaking a lot. No, I haven't seen a doctor...I have been thinking that I should--probably beginning of April for a referal for therapy.(doing some now with H, but looking for some for myself).and possibly a referal for an obgyb if I am pregnant...and if I am pregnant I would definitely opt not to be on meds.

Let me just say...Yes, I have been traumatized by this...Having an alcohoic father, going through his death, finding out the day my D was born has DownSyndrome--nothing on a scale from 1 to 100...Didn't even register...But the A off the scale...It is the most horrible thing, my body and mind I don't think knew what to do...There is no reference in my past to know how to deal with this sort of thing...It is in a class by itself...It doesn't seem like there is anything in life that can enter a scale that dealing with an A is on....

crete - I'm with you. The A sent me into severe depression - off the scale - worse by far than losing my son.<P>Please go see a doc!! Arrange it now!! Your GP can get you started on anti-deps, then make an appointment with a pshchiatrist. Avoiding meds does not mean you are strong!!!!!!!!!!! Seeking help does!!!!!!!!!!!<P>WAT

Yes, I shook a lot too. All the time in face. My mother was afraid I had Parkinson's disease. I went to the doctor and they ran a bunch of tests (mostly bloodwork) and determined that there wasn't anything physically wrong with me. It's been just over one year since D day. I believe the shaking finally stopped about 5 months ago. Our marriage is doing so much better now and I'm eating better now (I think that had something to do with it too. How is your appetite?) I think with me it was definitely mental. I never did go in therapy, couldn't afford it, but came here and lurked ALOT. I can't tell you how much this site helped me. I do think you should go to the doctor to try to rule out a physical problem, or catch it if there is. Just wanted you to know that you weren't alone with the shaking thing. Hang in there.

It is my hands that have the tremors..Although, I feel like I'm shaking inside, internally, too. My appetitie is fine, I did drop 10 pounds instantly, but have gained most of it back. I don't know if my appetitie is well because I think I may be pregnant..I've felt like I've been starving everyday for a couple weeks now and that would make sense.<BR>Maybe the tremors are just another symptom of post traumatic stress...I don't know if anyone has used that term for dealing with infidelity...But with thoughts of d-day, triggers-flashbacks-that cause the feelings of anxiety, gloom, despair..etc. It is similar if not PTSD.<BR>So, maybe seeing my symptoms and realizing that this may be what I am going through is good start...Meds will probably be determined on whether or not I'm pregnant...Pretty sure I'll see the doc in another week or so...then I can get the referrals and this taken care of all at once.<BR>Thanks for the responses..Just wish I didn't have to deal with this crap.

Whoops! that first line should have said "in fact" not "in face". My face didn't shake it was the rest of my body! What a funny picture though :-).

I thought that was weird...You made me laugh--always a good thing...Don't get to do that very often --thanks!

Dear Crete,<P>Another opinion on this. I felt that way for about the first 2 months. For me it turned out to be anxiety attacks. If you suspect you are pregnant, this could be even further exaggerated due to your condition. <P>My anxiety attacks came about 3 times a week for the first 3 weeks and then dwindled down. My last one was on Tuesday. I now can tell with a 10 minute warning. I start feeling anxious, can't sit still, lose concentration, feel great pain in my heart, emotional swells, tears, need to cry, shaking throughout my whole body, bad headache, weakness throughout my whole body, nauseated, loss of appetite, light-headed, etc. After it passes, I am exhausted. <P>What to do? Create a support group and tell them your symptoms. When it hits pay attention to the warning signs and get yourself to a safe place. Use your support group to help you through it. If they are not available, let someone know around you. My last episode was during a class. I have been hit in the store, at work, in meetings, on the phone, at home, in the car, etc. It knows no mercy. I have let my H know how I am being affected. Even my little one is aware and knows how to help mommy. <P>If you need to let your doctor know, then do so. They will eventually subside, it is your bodies way of dealing with the stress you have pent up in you. It is important to let it out. Crying is ok. I used to get so weak that I could not stand or walk. I even fell down at home in front of H but he did not get up to help me. I had to lie there until I had the strength to pull myself up. H thought I was making it up to get his pity. Wow, how stupid of him. When he realized I was not faking it, he was very sorry. <P>I think this happens to us because as BS's we are trying to get through the fog that we have been shoved into. We make it out of the fog quicker than the Ws's because we are fighting to get out. Some of the WS's seem to linger there not trying to fight their way out. <P>Anyway, hope this info helps. There is a lot of friendly advice here and hope it helps. <P>Take Care,<BR>L.<BR>

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