I'm posting this after reading Carolina Belle. As I said before, OW is pregnant, and should be having my husband's child soon. I recently found out I am also pregnant. I was wishing that I could be in Carolina's place and at least not have to be pregnant at the same time she is.<BR>When the OW called, she was basically feeling me out. I confronted her, I was civil. I told her I wanted to be certain she had no more designs on sex with my H. She then went into another identity (really!) Suddenly, she gave me another name, saying she & my H really were good friends, that they never did anything disrespectful toward me, and if she had, she wouldn't have the nerve to speak with me.<BR>She sounded nervous, a bit fearful, anxious. She kept saying how he always talked about me and how much he treasures and loves me.<BR>H & I are working things out, building trust and companionship again. I still don't feel as glad as I would like to about MY baby, I know this is not either child's fault. I am prayerful, but what else do I do to get over this selfishness, because as for my pregnancy that's all it boils down to.<BR>The OW isn't harassing me, I think that was her round-about way of saying she was sorry for her part in what happened.

Hello,<P> I am not familier with your story, but is she married??<BR>I am so sorry for you pain!!<P> My H OW talked like that too, but I called her, she was afraid I was going to tell her H. I should.<P>------------------<BR>Deb

Hi. Thanks for the support. No she is not married, she is 32. (I am 25) She does have 3 other children and she supposedly did not want to have any more babies. My original posting is in Just Found Out, dated about March 10, could be later. But I do want to be okay with what has happened as far as moving on with my marriage.

Have you thought about requesting a paaternity test for OW's child? I'm sure you don't want to cause any more problems than there already are, but I think I would have to be sure beyond a reasonable doubt that the baby is his. I would make sure your doctor is aware of your emotional state. I can only imagine the pain you are in and you will be in my prayers. My H had many night stands, some of these occurred before he had a vasectomy. I will always wonder if there is a child out there somewhere and my prayer is that the child find us.

Oh I didn't mention it but the same day H told me of the OW in the same breath he was also assuring me that he would be obtaining a paternity test. I do realize this child needs his father, so I am coming into compassion for the child and want H to take care of his responsibility. We still counsel, and are making progress. I am still separating what is really important versus the questions I have. He is finally allowing me to help him in some of his issues, instead of hiding them from me. I am becoming more clear on my boundaries with him, and being VERY patient. I am definitely working to kill the bitterness. Funny how it sometimes seems to come from out of nowhere! I want the pain to be over Last Week, (smile) but I see that rebuilding our marriage will take time. And a lot of work. I do believe we are getting past this with the help of God. Thanks for your prayers!